Jacqueline Elliott discusses two approaches to motivation: one that affirms your capabilities, another that challenges you first then rebuilds confidence through rehearsal and visualization. She explains how tough-love coaching works by starting with honest critique before helping you see yourself succeeding.
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When you tell me how you see me, you say that I'm powerful. You say that I'm capable. You say, I can do this. Like, dude, like, you almost gave me permission to go to war, and I could just tear a whole country down.
It's interesting because a lot of people don't know how to do that, though. A lot of people don't really understand. I'm not like, hey, honey, you're great. Like, you're. You can go, you know, do anything you want in life. I mean, you're power. I don't. I don't really do that, though. We start with the dirty, and you actually go and attack people and push them to grow. I kind of pissed you off in that sense. But I have a certain meaning behind what I'm doing to build you up after. Okay, if you come home and you say, hey, you know what? I'm not good at this. For example, I can't overcome this. I'm not good at that. I, like, won't allow you to talk that way. And we talk about like, hey, you do know how to do this. We just need a practice. And then I basically make you see your future. You in the sense that, hey, if you were to overcome this and that, imagine where that's going to take you. You believe it before you actually go and do it.