Jacqueline ElliottLeadership Strategist | CEO, Mother, Wife, Legacy-Builder

If you don’t fight in your relationship, that’s bullshit

18 Nov 2025 · 0 min

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Short excerpt from a YouTube video by Jacqueline Elliott (uploaded Nov 7, 2023) where two speakers discuss the necessity of fighting in relationships. The speakers open by asserting that relationships that never fight are not real, then list practical rules for arguing: don’t fight to win (no personal victory), fight fair, avoid saying things you’ll regret, don’t bring up historical grievances, and fight fast.

Who here is in a relationship and you don't fight, raise your hand. You're full of shit. Okay, first of all, if you don't fight, if you don't fight, you don't have a real relationship. Your relationship is dead. So I'm gonna give you three rules for fighting, and.
This will change your life, okay?
You don't fight.
For personal victory. That means you don't fight to win.
Fight fair.
You don't say things.
You'Re gonna regret.
And you don't get historical. I'm gonna add a fourth one in there.
You fight fast.
And that's it.