In this motivational monologue, the speaker argues that the biggest obstacles to success are self‑imposed labels and "leashes" that limit belief and action. Drawing on personal experience—growing up with a father who repeatedly failed as an entrepreneur—the speaker reframes failure as survivable and even empowering. He explains how both lack of money and excess wealth can create "golden handcuffs" that inhibit risk‑taking, and stresses the importance of changing one’s mental lenses to view adversity as an opportunity for growth. The talk distinguishes fleeting motivation from lasting drive, describing how small wins create a cycle of escalating goals and a sense of fulfillment. Practical advice includes pushing past fear, adding an extra ten minutes of effort, and continuously setting bigger challenges to cultivate purpose and lasting happiness.
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I think the challenges that people have most of the time are labels. It can be too much or not enough. These labels that people place on themselves are the biggest leashes that people have. What are the lies that you're telling yourself? What are the lies that you're telling yourself? My family doesn't support me, or I don't come from money, or I don't have the experience, or this person knows more information than I do. You know, those are the challenges. Those are the labels that I'm talking about. But you can change your lenses. My dad was an entrepreneur. He was a failed entrepreneur. He failed over and over and over in life. And people would see like, oh my gosh, that sucks. You know, like, you saw a lot of failure growing up. You, you had a bad life. Like, you had to move houses, you had to get, you know, you, you lost things, all this stuff. And you'd be like, hey, I would feel sorry for myself. Instead I was like, man, guess what? Failure does nothing. We survive. We go from a bigger house to a smaller house. We go from riding a car to a bus. But guess what happens? I realized that no matter what the failure was, that it wouldn't break us like it would. It was fine. We'd still survive. And what happened is that I became very ballsy and I wasn't afraid of failure. And actually that's one of the reasons why we started a company is because we weren't afraid to fail. Most people when they re. When they get a little bit of success or whatever and they make a little money, they're so afraid that they're going to lose it. They're so afraid to take that risk. Or even women when they have their kids are like, well, I'm not going to go and we're not going to move and take this risk to do this because my kids are in school. School. And something like, well, your kids, your kids are so adaptable. This is your leash you're putting on your kids. Your kids in kindergarten. What are they going to do? They're not going to learn a letter in the Alphabet. They're going to miss the letter M. Trust me, they're going to learn M. Like, this is you. This is a leash that you've self imposed on yourself and your family. And you have made up leashes for yourself. But how are you going to see, like, what lenses? You're going to see adversity. Are you going to see adversity as like an opportunity to learn and grow from it? Are you going to hide from it? It can happen from anybody. It doesn't matter whether you have success or not, whether you have a little money or you have a lot of money. Because I see a lot of people with money that have a lot of leashes. It's not people that don't have the money all the time. Because sometimes people that have no money take bigger risks than people that have money. I talk to business owners all the time that they're like, hey, you know, I don't, I don't do it. I was like, oh yeah, you, you, before you made money, when you first started this, when you first started your business and you didn't have anything, you put your back against the wall, you had nothing to lose. Now you're not taking bold risks because you have a little bit of money and you're afraid you're going to lose it. Now, who's more leashed? The person that doesn't have money or the person that has money. We call those golden handcuffs. Golden handcuffs as an employee or employer, you can have them. They're self imposed. And the thing is that they're really hard to break because those labels are the death of anybody that's trying to make a name for themselves. Because people see you for how you see yourself. You can tell who's confident, you can tell who loves himself. You can tell who is happy with their life. They don't even have to say a word. You just see them walking. You can tell. We motivate people to not lose sight of what's important to them, for them to find true happiness. Because when people give up, that's the reason why they don't find that happiness. Push people past a little bit past that, that fear, that scared moment, to them feeling powerful. That's what I found. Fulfillment. People find fulfillment of gratitude. Yes, you feel grateful, you find some fulfillment, but not all the way. You find it after pushing yourself to that next level and getting a little taste of what you thought was impossible. And then all of a sudden you hit a goal that everybody laughed at you about, even yourself. You didn't even believe yourself. But then all of a sudden you get a taste that and you're like, oh my gosh, I really did it. You feel so proud of yourself. What does it make you do next? You want to set yourself a bigger goal and all of a sudden you do it again. And also people are like, hey, how'd you do it? You become addicted to winning and people need to feel that, that. But most people give up a little bit too soon, a little bit before the breakthrough. Make that one last call, put in that one more rep. A lot of people go out and they quit, and they say, I had a bad day. Instead of spending another 10 minutes, and then all of a sudden they make that call that changed their whole day. And they could have just gone that extra 10 minutes and they would have ended their day completely different. I wouldn't just classify it as motivational, because I think it's way beyond motivational. It's a way of life. I think motivation is temporary. I would call it more drive. But sometimes they don't really know what that means until you feel like you're winning. Sometimes purpose gets defined through that hard work and through that drive of not quitting.
