Jacqueline ElliottLeadership Strategist | CEO, Mother, Wife, Legacy-Builder

The unspoken rules to fighting 👀💯

18 Nov 2025 · 1 min

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A speaker outlines informal 'rules' for fighting within romantic relationships, contrasting healthy couples who fight to resolve problems with unhealthy couples who fight to 'win' or score personal victories. Healthy conflict is described as aiming for resolution and letting go; unhealthy conflict includes rehashing history, aiming to be the last to speak, and refusing to move on.

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There are rules to fighting, so you ask that. So I believe in fighting fair. There's healthy couples. They fight for resolution. Right? Not for personal victory. So unhealthy couples fight to win for personal victory, and they just want to prove their point. So they're just waiting to just say what they want to say. And they say, hey, you know what? I made my point. I'm the last one to speak. I. I made my point, and I'm done. They're not fighting fair. No, they're not fighting fair, or they're getting historical, and they're saying, you know, you know, I remember when you did this. Or they're not letting things go. If you're gonna fight about something, fighting is to solve a problem that doesn't have to be brought up later.