The speaker (Jacqueline Elliott) argues that wives are culturally "trained" to say no as a test of their partner's commitment. Using a career/family example, she explains that when men make time-bound promises (e.g., "I'll work for three years"), failing to deliver erodes trust and leads wives to doubt future commitments or new ideas. The segment links communication patterns to the practical consequences of broken promises in relationships.
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Wives are trained to tell you no for everything. We're trained to say no. Hey, babe, I need. I need to buy this. Oh, no, I think that's a bad idea. They're always going to tell you no. The reason why they're going to tell you no is because they want to see how badly you really want it. Now, in your career, the way you talk about your work and the way you set your goals, how many times have you ever done something else? For example, and you said, hey, babe, I'm going to work for three years and I'm going to kick ass, and I'm just going to give it all I've got. You take care of the kids. The kids are only three years old. By the time they're six, they won't even remember. I'm going to be. I'm going to spend all my time there. And then you go, three years later, your kids, they're not three years old. They're six years old now. Your bank account hasn't grown. Then you say, hey, believe me, babe, trust me. And then you're the same. You've broken the commitment. She doesn't believe you anymore. They're false promises. Then you wonder why your wife doesn't trust you when you say you have a new idea or you're going to change.