Jake Burhans argues that lasting change starts with shifting your identity, not your habits. Trying to force new behaviors without changing how you see yourself is like putting shoes on before socks. When you align your identity first, the behaviors follow naturally instead of burning you out.
You're trying to change your behavior before you've changed your identity. It's like trying to put shoes on before you have socks on. Most people are forcing effort and then using discipline to push even harder and then just burning out. Correct order is you shift your identity, you then shift your state of being, and the behavior naturally flows and it's less of a struggle. You lock into that new identity and it has stabilized, your effort becomes less of this struggle and it's just this natural flow of who you already are. If you're ready to stop forcing change, follow along.
