Janet Macaluso argues for living from your unique essence rather than fitting into personality categories. She cites Bonnie Ware's research on dying people's regrets, especially "I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself," and uses a mortality math exercise: at 54, you have roughly 10,000 mornings left to live without regret.
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"I wish I had the courage to live my life, not the life others expected of me."
Approximately 30,000 mornings in a lifetime (speaker's claim).
About 15,000 mornings left (speaker's approximation).
About 10,000 mornings left (speaker's approximation).
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So the fourth point on the regenerative framework is leading from essence and really what that is about. Reclaiming and regenerating our unique singular n of 1, you and me, and then creating new patterns around our own non displaceable essence versus copying pasting others behaviors or what they expected of us. Really getting in touch with our essence and living that out and connecting to that not only with ourselves, but connecting the essence of others, our beloveds, whatever that happens to be our people, our places and our causes. It's not this essence that I'm talking about. It's not a personality test or Myers Briggs or putting us in a high potential, low potential, no potential disc, none of those boxes slating, ranking, slotting into unique people into boxes. We are really going to focus on generating the n of 1 number of 1 uniqueness, our non displaceable essence in the world. So there is an interesting research done by this woman, Bonnie Ware, where she came up with the top five regrets of the dying. Number one. I wish I had the courage to live my life, not the life others expected of me. 2. I wish I didn't work so hard or I wish I had the courage to express my feelings. I wish I stayed in touch with my friends. And I wish I had let myself be happier with this mastermind. Our job is to have none erase all of those regrets completely. Each and every one of us, generally speaking, has 30,000 mornings. If you're 40, you have 15,000 left. If you're 54, you have 10,000 approximately mornings left. Think about that. What are we going to do with them? So I'm going to leave you with that. Next up, we'll talk about applying framework thinking so that we can think about and plan and design our lives and our work from a higher clarity of thinking. See you there.
