A short YouTube monologue in which the speaker (Jeffrey Jaime) recounts writing a letter apologizing to his parents for two decades of disrespect following their divorce and describes committing to mend that relationship. He then urges viewers to repair strained relationships in their own lives—family or workplace—by writing difficult letters, making calls, having humble conversations, and offering/asking for forgiveness.
Hey, I want to tell you about a letter that I recently wrote to my mom and my dad. Went like this. Dear mom and dad, last night I realized something. Ever since you divorced, I've had a subconscious disrespect for you. Since that time, I've actually justified dishonoring you. Namely, manifested in me speaking harshly or with judgment to mom and being embarrassed of and not showing proper reverence to my father. And that's not right. God told us to honor our father and mother, period. Not to honor our father and mother if they're still married or so long as we agree with them about everything. No, he told us to honor our father and mother no matter what. So I'm sorry for being a dishonorable son. Please forgive me. I'm gonna change. I did it. After 20 years of treating my parents crappy. At least in my opinion. I feel different now. Cause I committed to mending that relationship.
What kind of relationships do you need to mend? Mom, dad, brother, sister, cousin, niece, nephew, family member, co worker, employer, employee. Well, you know what? You can do it. Write the difficult letter, make the difficult phone call. Have the difficult conversation. Be humble. Forgive and be forgiven. It feels so good. It's like a weight lifted off your back. You don't have to identify with the relationship being that way any longer. So I encourage you to think about what relationships in your life you need to mend. And then, no excuses. You just do. Feels great. Try it.
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