301: The Visualization Habit That Transformed My Life - #GrowYourLife

Hey everyone. Thanks for listening to the Grow youw Life podcast. My name is Jeremiah Gracowski. I'm excited. This is episode 301. We've been doing this for a long time. I've done weekly episodes for the last 301weeks. And so I want to talk this week about visualizing things and what better time than episode 301 on this? 1 of the things that I think that we end up doing way too often as business owners, we end up imagining the worst case scenario. We end up planning and preparing for things not go well for us. And unfortunately, this does not help us. It does not produce the kind of success, it doesn't keep us safe. What works better is to imagine in your mind how you would like things to go in every scenario. Whether it be your Facebook ads, whether it be your relationship, whether it be a conversation with a spouse, whether it be how your evening will go, picking up the house, or things like that. Can I tell you this? Our brain needs no help coming up with the worst case scenario. And yet we naturally dwell on that worst case scenario because we're like, well, I don't want this to happen. So I'm so self protective of making sure that it never happens. And this becomes a vicious cycle where literally our energy, our focus, our mind, our body, our spirit, everything about us goes into that place of what we're imagining the most on the other side of it. The same thing happens when you imagine good things working out for you. No matter what the evidence is in the world around you, no matter what's going on around you, imagining that things are gonna work out, they're gonna go well for you, that they're gonna happen in a good way. Can I tell you this? Maybe you've never done this before. Try it. Shock yourself, put it to the test. I promise you it's gonna change your life. Because this is the number one thing that has changed my life more than anything else. Every milestone that I've hit in my business, in my life, comes from visualizing and seeing the outcome and then feeling internally, imagining feeling, allowing the imagination of the experience to get into my space, to get into my thoughts, my feelings, my relationship, what I dwell on, what I think about. I imagine that the best case scenario is going to happen even in the toughest of situations, even in the most dreadful of situations, even when things seem like they're going the worst. You, you. You start to imagine and see it turning around in a better way for you. And listen, I understand. Maybe some of you are like Jeremiah, you Don't know my situation, I've had it too hard. Life has been too hard. I can't do that. I, I can't say that I know your situation, but I can say I've been through hard things. And this used to be in impossible for me because I was always going based on what I could see, what was quote unquote truth, truthful in my life. And I ended up manifesting some of the worst case scenarios that I ended up imagining and what turned everything around for me, for my family, for my life. I've seen this happen with multiple people as well. Well, not just myself, but multiple people. That what we visualize becomes a reality. And can I tell you this is that right now, everything that you are experiencing in your life, at some point you saw it happening before it started to happen. You imagined either to avoid it or that it would start to happen. Everything that you ever created in your life, you imagine. We have this amazing visualization property in our minds where we come up with and we imagine and we see in our minds how things are going to go before they happen. It's a, it's something that all human beings do and we do it to create our world, but we do it to create our world positively or negatively. And that's the thing, as most people are using it in a way that's creating a negative world for them. It's creating a world that they don't want to live in. And they're like, well, I've spent so much time focusing on what I don't want to happen to protect myself. Why do I keep experiencing it? And it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy, it becomes a repetitive pattern that every time that we're like, man, I don't want this bad thing to happen to me and then it happens. What if you tried something else? What if you tried to do a risky thing because it seems risky in the, in the moment of it and just imagined. What if it does work out? What if it does come together? Well for me and I used to get angry when people would say this to me and I used to want to spit in their face and say, you don't know my situation. You don't know what's going on. You don't know the reality of what's happening. I wish I know what I know now. Years ago, I wish I know. And what I know now I knew internally, but I never experienced it it because I was too afraid to because I was, I was so caught up. My nervous system was constantly caught up in a state of fight, flight, freeze. I was disregulated, unregulated in my nervous system. My nervous system was so haywire. Operating in fear and worry and lack and insecurity, security and trying to avoid bad things from happening. And then literally every time I would say I wanted to avoid a bad thing from happening, that thing ended up happening. And so what I started doing was I started imagining what is the beautiful life that I want to have. What, what does that life feel like for me? And then all of those things, not overnight, they didn't happen overnight. Don't expect it to happen overnight. But it's a long term. What you put your focus on will start to become your reality. This isn't woo woo either. This is proven time and time again in every part of our lives. What are you focusing on today? Where are you putting your focus? Where are you putting your energy? And the next thing is, is to start to cultivate a sense of safety for yourself. Where you feel safe, imagining great things happening, where you feel safe no matter what the situation is, because you find the safety not from outside of you, but from within. And that level changes everything. When we can create and cultivate safety for ourselves and we tell ourselves, we tell our nervous system, we tell our trauma response, I am safe right now. No matter what's happening around me, I am safe. Even if the past situations have told you that you're not safe in said situation, tell yourself that you are. And I'm not talking about like life or death. Like you're in the, in the face of a, an ax murderer or something like that. Like, of course run away from that, like, or stay still or be quiet or whatever, you know, it's the best thing to do in that situation. Look like it's not visualize that. But when I talk about sense of safety, like I could be experiencing something with my family and not feel safe because it's replaying a memory from my childhood. I didn't feel safe. But I'm no longer a child, I'm an adult. I'm in a new situation. So I am safe. And I'm creating that safety. I'm going based on a memory that's telling me I'm unsafe right now. And then that creates a reactivity, a defensiveness that creates a version of myself I don't like that shows up. And that's where I got to tell myself, you're safe in this situation. What was going on in your childhood is not what's happening right now. And that changes everything for us. It changes everything. It'll happen in your business. We'll feel a sense of unsafety when we launch Facebook ads, when we put ourselves out there to promote our business. And the only thing that creates that safety is internally inside of us. It's a choice that we get to choose based on how we talk to ourselves, based on how we communicate to ourselves about ourselves by loving ourselves, not in an arrogant way, not in a way that puts other people down, but rather kindness, the same kindness that we would offer somebody else. Not being mean to ourselves, but loving and kind and compassionate and giving ourselves grace and giving yourself a break. It'll change everything for you. So start imagining things going well for you, and then start reiterating anytime you feel unsafe. Or listen, I'm telling you, like the unsafety could be. My wife made a comment about something. I feel unsafe because she had to make a comment. But wait a sec. I'm not in a situ. I'm not actually unsafe, even if it feels that way. See what I mean? That's what I'm talking about. And that changes everything. We can start to realize what's the truth. The truth is that I am safe in this situation, and that changes everything. All right, so listen, I hope that this. This has helped you. These are some lessons that have helped me so tremendously over the years that will change your life. If you apply them, if you start doing them, if you start just trying them out, things are going to go well for you. Things are going to turn around no matter what your situation is. And you're going to be looking back a year from now saying, wow, I wish I knew what I know now because that's what I've been experiencing as well. All right, grow your life, everybody, and we'll talk soon. Have a good.