Single-speaker YouTube talk arguing that healthy relationship-seeking starts with self-reflection: know your values, interests, and hobbies so you can understand who you're attracted to and who is attracted to you. The speaker frames compatibility as selective — "not meant for everybody" — and ties relationship choices to personal values.
You're not meant for everybody, and not everybody's meant for you. That goes for me, too. I'm not everybody's cup of tea, and nor is everybody my cup of tea. And so how do we figure out or come to an understanding of what kind of relationships should we be seeking? And so I think that requires some self reflection. In other words, what are your values? What's your value system? What do you find interesting? What are your hobbies? What are you all about? The more you know that about yourself, the more you will be able to understand why it is that you're attracted to certain or why certain people are attracted to you.
