The speaker argues that not every person is compatible with every other person and that finding suitable relationships requires self-reflection. Key self-reflection targets include one’s values, value system, interests, hobbies, and core identity; greater self-knowledge helps explain why one is attracted to certain people and why certain people are attracted to you.
You're not meant for everybody, and not everybody's meant for you. That goes for me, too. I'm not everybody's cup of tea, and nor is everybody my cup of tea. And so how do we figure out or come to an understanding of what kind of relationships should we be seeking? And so I think that requires some self reflection. In other words, what are your values? What's your value system? What do you find interesting? What are your hobbies? What are you all about? The more you know that about yourself, the more you will be able to understand why it is that you're attracted to certain or why certain people are attracted to you.
