Dave Asprey compares your mind to a smartphone control panel and argues you should actively disable internal notifications instead of just breathing through them. Turning off unwanted mental alerts saves energy, helps you resist unhealthy choices, and lets you calm reactive kids through co-regulation.
So your job is, it's as important as learning how to cook, is to learn how to go into the control panel in your mind and turn off the alerts from all the different apps. If we had a world where your phone, every app was allowed to just, you know, just blow up in your face whenever you wanted to, and then you go to the therapist, they're like, well, every time an alert comes, just take a deep breath, notice the alert, swipe to the side and continue working. Like that's what meditation and therapy is. And it's so dumb, JJ. No, go in and turn that shit off unless it's a notification you want. Like, oh my God, world is so much better, right? And then you have more energy to say, oh, I'm not going to eat the cupcake, right? And you just make better choices. And then, you know, when, when a kid who's, who's in a reactive state comes to you, you can be the one who's not reacting. So they will co-regulate with you. Your nervous system teaches them how you're supposed to be, but if they get triggered and then you get triggered, which triggers them, you just enter a spiral and it sucks your own energy.
