Debunking Hormone-Replacement Therapy Myths with Dr. Deb Matthew

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This is the interview I've been wanting to do for a while because I feel like we really needed time to deep dive into hormone replacement therapy. What it is what's the difference between hormone replacement therapy and bioidentical hormone replacement therapy? What are the risks? What are the benefits? Should you, shouldn't you? If you hadn't done it, you're 10 years out from menopause. Can you still do it? All those questions, and some you maybe haven't even thought about are about to get answered by Dr. Deb Mathew. Deb Mathew is a medical doctor known as the Happy Hormones Doctor. She's a bestselling author, she's a speaker, educator, wife and mom of four boys and it was very funny. She's going to tell you the story of how she personally got on bioidentical Hormones. I'm going to have you listen to this because pretty funny, but that led her into really deep diving into bioidentical hormones and changing her practice entirely. 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But I still remember, you know, ways I could tell when my estrogen wasn't where it needed to be is I couldn't recover at the gym. Like, I'd literally work out and I'd always be sore and I wasn't working out nearly as hard as I used to. And of course, night sweats, holy smokes. But the ones that were so unusual for me, just in case you aren't putting the connecting the dots here, was that and then also bleeding gums. And I went to my dentist. I'm like, what is going on here? And he goes, estrogen. I'm like, oh, shoot. So this is such a great episode to just unpack every bit of those things. I do now take a estradiol patch. I do oral progesterone compounded by a pharmacist that I do one week out of the month. For most people, progesterone is this great calming thing, helps you sleep. It's anti anxiety for me. It makes me want to cry and eat cookies. But I'm one of those people. Like, both times I got pregnant with my boys, I immediately felt like I wanted to cry and eat cookies. 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Oh, I'm so glad to be here. This is a topic that gets me really riled up. So I will try to contain myself here, But I think this is important information.

I love seeing Deb riled up. I got to tell you, it's fantastic. You were just telling me before we started the recording that your hill you would die on, like, and I'd love to hear that. And then we're going to jump in that hill that Dr. Deb Matthew is dying on.

What is it the idea that women are so scared of hormones because they believe that estrogen is going to increase their risk for breast cancer? They believe it because their doctor tells them that. But the reality is that is not the truth. Estrogen replacement therapy does not increase the risk for breast cancer. That's just not what the medical science shows.

And we are going to dig into that science, so you will have the information to take back to your doctor or perhaps get a new one. And I think we're going to talk about that, too, because, you know, you got to make sure that whoever you're working on is really staying up on the latest information so that you can have what you need to be in great health forever. I want to play full out when I'm 100. Full disclosure. I've been on bioidentical hormones since my hormones started going wacky. How did all of this information about hormone replacement therapy go so sideways and start all of this fear porn?

It was just one study. You know, when I was in medical school in the early 90s, we were all trained that all women should go on hormone replacement therapy for their own good. Because we knew from the preponderance of evidence that it helped reduce the risk of heart disease and osteoporosis and dementia. We knew that estrogen was good. And then in 2002, this study was released. It was called the Women's Health Initiative Study. And it came out saying that there was an increase in the risk for breast cancer. And overnight doctors offices where the phones were ringing off the hook from panicked patients. And as doctors, we were horrified because our motto is first do no harm. We were horrified to think that we were recommending something that was increasing the risk for breast cancer. That was 20 years ago. And over the last 20 years, as we've been able to redelve into the data, we've found that, in fact, that's not what the study showed. But it's so ingrained in our psyche. Yeah, as women, right, we are so scared of breast cancer. The reality is most women are going to die from heart disease, not breast cancer. But we just don't Lie awake at night worrying about heart disease the way we're so scared of breast cancer.

And I was just listening to a podcast this morning speaking of heart disease, because it is, it's what 50% of women die of heart disease, I think, and estrogen plays a massive role in keeping your heart healthy. And I was listening to a podcast this morning that was talking about fitness and mortality. And there is a 400% higher risk of morbidity in people who are in the lower 25% of cardiovascular fitness than in the ones in the upper 2%. So how did that study get it so wrong?

What the study did is they took a whole bunch of women and they gave them hormone replacement therapy and they gave them the standard hormone replacement therapy of the day. And that was conjugated equine estrogen. The brand name was Premarin. And that's the kind of estrogen that we get from horses. So while it is from nature, it's not natural to a woman's body because it's not the same as. So if you had had a hysterectomy, that's what you got. If you did not have a hysterectomy, then you got that estrogen pill along with a synthetic drug form of progesterone. So estrogen and progesterone are our two main female hormones. But this progesterone drug, it was chemical, it was man made, it was synthetic. It's not the same as the progesterone that's in our bodies. And it turns out that that synthetic progestin, which is what we call a synthetic progesterone, that synthetic progestin is the one that had an increase in the risk for breast cancer. So that threw us in a tizzy. And the number that was stated was that there was a 26% greater risk for breast cancer in the women on that particular pill. And when we hear that, it sounds like 26% of women were getting breast cancer, right? And that's not true. The actual number is for every 10,000 women years of being on the hormone, for every 10,000, there was eight extra breast cancers. So that's less than 1% risk. There's 99 point something percent risk that you're not going to have an increase in the risk for breast cancer. But it was so scary that it just got so ingrained and the media ran with it. Everywhere you looked, the media was talking about hormone replacement therapy and breast cancer. And all hormone replacement therapy got lumped into the same category as though it's one Thing. And it's like saying, antibiotics. Well, we've got lots of different antibiotics. You need the right one for your particular infection. But hormone replacement therapy and just hormones in general, overnight just became this very, very scary thing. It's a real shame because a whole generation of women got scared away.

Yeah.

But now that we've had time to redelve into it, we actually find that even in that same study, there were a lot of really positive and important benefits.

But here's the thing. In that study, they were using oral estrogen, which I want you to talk about, and a synthetic progestin, progesterone. And still seeing benefits.

Yes. Right.

So just imagine if you were using the good stuff. So what were the benefits they saw? And then can you talk a little bit about oral estrogen?

So what they found was, in the study, women who were on the hormone replacement therapy had a 42% decreased risk of death compared with women who were not on hormone replacement therapy. And even six years after stopping the hormones, their risk of death was still 33% lower than the women that had never been on hormones. And this was published in the British Medical journal back in 2012.

It just was hidden. Right. A buddy called these the studies that you never hear about. Yes.

And then they found that for women who'd been on hormones for more than 10 years, they found that there were 19 less deaths from heart disease, seven less stroke deaths.

In what size group of people?

Or is that percentages per 1,000 women? Okay. And then overall, they found that for women who were between the ages of 50 and 59, that their overall statement was that the benefits of the hormone replacement therapy far outweighed the risks. They found that there was less breast cancer, less colon cancer, less lung cancer, less osteoporosis, less bone fractures, less death overall in women on the estrogen only arm, there was a slight risk of breast cancer in the women on the estrogen and progestin arm. But when we look at women who are on the bioidentical form of progesterone, we don't see that. So we found lots of benefits for women on the hormones, especially the women who were on the estrogen only arm. And yet it was estrogen that got the bad name. Like, it's not even progesterone that women are worried about is estrogen. And estrogen reduced the risk for heart disease.

This is also interesting because when you look progesterone still seen as like this, it's over the counter, which always surprises me. And it's like, go ahead and use all you want. I'm like, it's a hormone, you know, so that's kind of crazy. I want to dig into all of this and what the options are, how you know, what to take all of that. But before we get there, let's just go back to you're in perimenopause and what are some of the things going on there, and maybe some things women wouldn't normally expect to have happening that they wouldn't know about.

Well, so when we first go into perimenopause, the first thing that goes south is progesterone, even before your estrogen starts to cause problems. And progesterone is the calming hormone. So it's the one that helps us just feel chilled out and relaxed. And when it goes down, we tend to feel more irritable, negative, impatient, critical. I have a theory, totally, completely unscientific theory. But you know those Karens out there that are completely misbehaving and saying things they really shouldn't? They need some progesterone. That's my theory. But progesterone helps us to just feel calm and maybe a nicer version of ourselves helps us sleep soundly through the night, and so we can end up having night sweats and waking up at 2 in the morning. So those are some of the earliest things that women don't recognize as being hormonal. It can cause like heavier periods of more pms. And you kind of know that has something to do with hormones. But if you're ready to just bite your husband's head off or, you know, you have no patience with your kids, or you're lying awake at night, you may not recognize that that's hormone shifts that are happening. And that tends to happen after age 35, really common winter in our 40s. And then our estrogen level commonly dips by the time we get around 50, 52. And then we can get the hot flashes, we can have the vaginal dryness. Sex can become painful, and you kind of recognize that those things are hormonal. Right? Your periods kind of get lighter and they stop. But hot flashes, generally speaking, are super annoying. But if that's the only thing you had to put up with for most women, you know, we would make it through the hot flashes. The thing that a lot of women don't recognize is that estrogen has a humongous role to play in our brain. So being able to spit out that word that's right on the tip of your tongue sometimes gets really hard. You can't Remember the person's name that you've known for the last 10 years. You start relying on things like the thingamajig or those kind of words. You can't remember why you walked in the room or where you left the car keys. So it has a huge, important role to play in our memory. Creativity, quality of ideas, our energy, our sleep, our mood. Estrogen's like a natural antidepressant, and progesterone's like a natural anti, anxiety. And so there is this whole cohort of women who are marching into their doctor's office to say, I don't feel like myself. Like, I just, I'm not so interested in things I used to be interested in. I'm feeling more anxious than I used to. Like, I don't know what's wrong with me. But this isn't normal. And they've walked into their doctor's office looking for hope and answers, and then they just walk out with another prescription for antidepressants or for sleeping pills. And the problem is, it's not fixing the right problem.

Right. I remember, Deb, I was sitting in the pool with my kids out in Palm Desert, and these women were talking, and I was in my probably early 40s at the time, and they were talking about this very subject. One of the women had gone to her doctor and she was talking about how her doctor had given her birth control pills and Prozac.

Yeah, if you complain of any kind of hormonal, menstrual, whatever, menopausal issues, if you're 45 and under, you were given birth control pills. And if you're over 45, you're more likely to be given hormone replacement therapy. And if you complained enough, we gave you the side of Prozac.

All right, well, fortunately, this doesn't have to be this way. And now we know about bioidenticals. Can you just talk about the difference first of bioidentical hormones versus the premarin and progestin.

So the word bioidentical just means that the hormone is an exact match to the hormone that our body made. So at least in theory, your body shouldn't be able to tell the difference between whether it came from the pharmacy or from your ovaries. When I went to medical school and residency, I didn't know that there were different kinds of estrogens and, you know, birth control pills were not real hormones. I had no idea. Like, we don't know this as doctors, but the reality is there are many, many synthetic man made chemicals that mimic our Hormones, So they do some similar things, but they're not exactly the same. So they don't have all the same benefits, and they have some different risks. So bioidentical hormones is simply the natural form of the hormone that your body has always had. And we can get bioidentical hormones by a prescription from your regular doctor, from the regular pharmacies. It's just that most doctors don't know which hormones are bioidentical and which ones aren't. And to regular doctors who aren't really well versed in all of this, the word bioidentical hormone to them means compounded. So a compounded hormone, that means that it's made in a compounding pharmacy, which is a special pharmacy that personalizes the prescription just for you. They take these hormones that come from pharmaceutical companies that they take the hormones and they mix them in the right dose in the right combination. They can put it in a cream or a lozenge that goes under your tongue. They can do it in all sorts of different ways, and it allows us to really personalize the dose. So we're taking the natural form of the hormones, and we're personalizing it. But bioidentical hormones don't have to come from a compounding pharmacy. And conventional doctors aren't used to working with compounding pharmacies. And so somehow in all of this, the word bioidentical they've taken offense to, and it's just logical. And they prescribe bioidentical hormones all the time. It's unfortunate that somehow it's gotten almost a stigma. And so a lot of women will go in and they'll say, can I have bioidentical hormone? And their doctor will say, no, I don't do that. Even though that doctor's written five prescriptions already that morning for something that happens to be bioidentical, you wouldn't eat a synthetic tomato. Why would you want a bioidentical hormone if you're just trying to replace the hormones that your body's not making anymore? So bioidentical just means they're natural. The way that they get the hormone in the first place is it comes from a component that's from either yam or soy, but then it has to be extracted from the yam or the soy, and it does have to be altered in the lab in order to make it into the estrogen or progesterone or testosterone. So you can't just, like, eat yams or rub yams on your skin and get the same results. So that's the difference between synthetic and bioidentical. So it's important what form of hormone we give you. The synthetic form of progesterone, we call that a progestin. Increased the risk for breast cancer. The natural form of progesterone has not been shown to increase breast cancer risks. The other thing that's important is how we give it to you, whether it's a pill or a cream or whatever. And this is really, really important, because when we give women the Premarin pill, you swallow it, it gets absorbed in your bloodstream, and it has to pass through your liver. Everything you eat passes through your liver before it goes to the rest of your body. So your liver got slammed with the whole dose of estrogen all at once when you swallow it. And that increases the risk for blood clotting proteins. It doesn't matter if it's birth control pills or if it's hormone replacement therapy, but if we give you estrogen through your skin creams or patches, we've got all different ways we can do it. It doesn't go through your liver the same way. And so we don't see the same risk for blood clots. When you're 19 and you need birth control, we don't really worry about blood clots because your risk is so low. But by the time you're 49 or 59, there's just no need to take that risk. And I see a lot of doctors who advise women away from hormone replacement therapy saying it's not safe, and instead give them birth control pills, which is the most illogical thing that I've ever heard, because birth control pills are just higher doses of synthetic hormone. The synthetic hormone replacement therapy is just lower doses, and it's by a pill that increases your risk for blood clots. It makes no sense to me whatsoever. But that's a really common thing.

It just sounds like it's lack of education. And I know that in California, at least, the compounding pharmacists were getting, like, crowded out, trying to get put out of business. And so that might be part of it too. You know, it's like you look at who's educating the doctors, and it's big pharma. When I lived in Palm Desert, we had amazing compounding pharmacists who were like your family pharmacist who would go and help you with all sorts of things. It was just a different business model than going to CVS or Walgreens.

Right. The pharmacists at CVS and Walgreens they have to go into their computer system and then it can only dispense what the big wigs, you know, in the company have sort of decreed it, what they're going to carry. Whereas the compounding pharmacist can work with somebody and they can personalize things so much. Doctors just don't know. Like, I can tell you how I learned about bioidentical hormones. It sure was. Not at medical school. It was because I was freaking out at my kids over the stupidest little things and I was getting wigged out. My husband just didn't even know what the heck to do with me. And he was at the gym one day and he saw this book on the counter and it was called the Sexy Years by Suzanne Somers. Ah, she's smart, right? If she titled the book Women's Hormone Problems, he would have not touched that book with a ten foot pole.

He was like, I need this book.

Yeah. And on the back cover, you know, where you list all the like, do you have irritability? Are you not sleeping, whatever. He saw all those things for me and he brought the book home and he said, you know, like, have you heard of bioidentical hormones? Which I hadn't. And he said, maybe you should read this book. So you have to give him a little bit of credit for being brave, right? What guy comes home and tells their wife they need to do something about their hormones? But I looked at the book and like, medical doctors, we don't want to get our information from celebrities. And all I could think about was, you know, Chrissy Snow and the Thigh Master. And I knew though, that how I was feeling was so confusing to me because nothing in my medical school training helped me understand what was happening to me. I knew it wasn't normal, I knew that it wasn't me. I wasn't depressed, but I didn't understand. And I read the book and it changed my whole life because I read all these stories about women who were just like me and how messed up they felt and then how they got back to feeling like themselves again when they got their hormones balanced. And that's what really allowed me to open my mind and to be receptive to the idea that there's this whole world out there that they didn't teach me about at medical school. And it helped me to find places where I could go to learn. Because this isn't woo woo. This is real science. It's based on real studies. And so I went back and retrained. And so for 16 years, I've been helping men and women get their hormones back in balance instead of just prescribing sleeping pills and antidepressants to deal with their symptoms. Ray Ban Meta glasses come with open ear audio so you can listen to your favorite music without blocking out the world around you.

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What you don't know.

And I forgot all about it till.

You brought it up. So I know Suzanne. She lived in the desert, and her doctors, Dr. Diana Schwartzbein. I actually created a program with Diana and used to teach it. It was how to do hormones. And then Dr. Prudence Hall. So I was like, I've known Prudence for years. So I learned all of this stuff early on, which was fantastic. As I was starting to get into all of this, Prudence actually was like, take this. You know, but Suzanne books are so well referenced. She has such an amazing group of doctors behind her with the information. She's just a great person to get it out there. And truthfully, if the doctors did it, they would have gotten attacked. She doesn't care.

We had a, you know, bullseye on her forehead. She swings in the arrows. And she was really strong and she stood up. And I would have been one of the people who would have been poo pooing her. Right? Because as a conventional doctor, like, who is she to be saying that we're not doing things right? But she was right. And.

And bless her for getting that word out. It's been fantastic.

That's right. She's done a lot for women's health.

Yes, she has. Amen. So right now, like someone listening, and I will tell you, here's one of the ways I knew I needed to do something. I looked for fights to pick. I was like, ooh, that person cut me off. Now I'm going to get them. So I think what you talked about, the best way I could ever describe it was I really felt like I wish my body had a zipper suit and I could just get out of it and come back later because I was so uncomfortable in my skin. It was like. And, boy, you start hormones and you're like, oh, the birds are out singing again. But short of those insane symptoms, how do you know if you need it? When should you start it?

That's a good question. The way that you really know for sure is you can get your hormone levels tested.

Okay. And that's a whole thing, Deb, because is it like blood, saliva, urine, all of the.

Any of the above are fine. What I would say is find a provider who can help you, and whichever one of those they are most comfortable with, it's going to be okay. You just want to kind of understand, like, what's going on with your hormones. We all have a unique hormonal pattern. Not everybody needs everything. Some people can still make a little bit of hormones. If your adrenals are stronger, if you don't have too much stress, or if you handle stress well, that actually helps minimize your menopausal symptoms. There's all kinds of things that we can do to make it better. But we would want for you to get your hormone levels tested just to make sure that we're doing the right thing. And I get asked a lot, like, should everybody get their hormone levels tested? And to some degree, the younger you are, the healthier you are. I don't know. It's not mandatory for everybody to get their hormones tested, but these symptoms can sneak up on you. So first of all, if you're miserable, if you feel crappy, then just go get it dealt with. And don't wait. Don't be scared. Don't feel like the best thing to do is to be strong and just power through it. You know, this isn't natural childbirth. Don't have to do that. If you don't feel good, there are things that we can do to make you healthier. And, you know, I really like this analogy. One of my colleagues talks about what happens with our, you know, vision as we get older. So naturally, what tends to happen is we have to start, like, holding the paper farther away. Right.

I don't know what you're talking about, Deb.

Yeah. And so it's not that we tell people, oh, well, this is a natural part of aging. Your near vision goes, and you just won't be able to read anymore. What we say is, yes, this is a natural part. Often happens over 40. Here's some reading glasses so that you can just do whatever it is that you want to do and carry on. So it's the same kind of thing. And for me, this is my little story of how I started. When I was in my late 30s, I needed progesterone. My husband was unsafe in my house. So I've been on progesterone for a long time. But last year, I started having all these night sweats, and I was following my estrogen along. I could see that it was going down, and I was just watching it a little bit, but I was having all these night sweats. And my husband is a little bit like the princess in the pea. He has to have the right pillow and he has to have the fan here I'm having these night sweats. And he finally said, this isn't working for me. Like, you got to do something about this because you're disturbing my sleep. I got myself started on estrogen and the night sweats went away within, like, three nights. I was sleeping like a baby. And I expected that. But what I didn't expect is that my brain suddenly started working. And I hadn't appreciated that it wasn't working. But my team would come to me, like, at 3:00' clock in the afternoon, and they would say, such and such is happening. What should we do about it? And I heard myself saying, I'm hearing what you're saying, but there's nothing going on between my ears. Come back and ask me tomorrow. And then all of a sudden, I got started on the estrogen and my brain started working again. And it was this miracle. And then a few months later, I heard myself say that again to one of my employees. I hear what you're saying, but nothing is going on in between my ears. And I thought, wait a minute. I haven't had to say that for a long time. I forgot to refill my prescription. I'd been six days off of the estrogen and my brain stopped working again. Like, when it went away, I could tell. So it's those kinds of subtle things. It's the fatigue, it's the irritability that.

I couldn't recover from. Two things happened that were so clear. You know, all of a sudden, I couldn't recover from my workouts. I was like, I never get sore like this. Like, what is going on? And then I started to have bleeding gumps.

Wow.

Yes. Weird little things.

And, you know, testosterone is really important here, too. We haven't even talked about testosterone yet. But again, when we talk about hormone replacement therapy, typically what we mean is estrogen with or without progesterone. But testosterone is important, too. And, you know, women have 10 times more testosterone than estrogen. It's just that men have 10 times more testosterone than women do. But testosterone is humongously important, and it's important for maintaining our muscles and bones, so it helps prevent frailty. Because if you think about it, you had said at the beginning, you want to be the best version of you when you're 90 years old. We need our vision, our mobility, and our memory. Testosterone is one of the things that helps keep us robust, so we don't fall down, snap like a twig, end up in assisted living and wither away. So it's important for muscles and bones. It's important for everything to do with sex. Thinking about it, caring about it, becoming aroused, vagina, vaginal lubrication, the whole nine yards. And it's so common for women to have sexual problems when they, you know, are going through this whole menopausal process. Partly because it can hurt and it's like really unpleasant. One woman told me that it felt like somebody was shoving a cactus up her vagina.

Wow, that's a bad visual.

And then of course, she was not very receptive to her husband. Right, because it's painful. But really, even more commonly than that is this just general lack of interest. Like Suzanne Summers, famously, her line is like, really? I would have just rather had a smoothie. And these things are so common and they impact families. Because it's one thing if you're the one who's lost interest, sometimes you don't really care because, you know, don't even think about it anymore. But if you have a partner who's interested, it sometimes makes the partner feel like you don't care about them anymore. It makes them, you know, hurts their self esteem. Sometimes the partner has their own issues and then they're not interested in us. And that makes us worry about our own. You know, it just, it impacts relationships and it's unnecessary because we can help. And so testosterone is not the only thing that affects intimacy, but it's an important thing. And then it's really important for how we feel. So we said estrogen is like a natural antidepressant and progesterone is like the natural anti anxiety. But testosterone is a mood stabilizer. It is our motivation, our confidence, self esteem, assertiveness, decisiveness, get up and go get things done. And so when it goes down, women will describe themselves as just feeling kind of flat, kind of blah. So you put your one foot in front of the other and you make your way through your day. And whatever must be accomplished today, you'll make it happen. But if it doesn't really have to be today, we often kind of push things to the side and sort of procrastinate and, you know, because you're just not really feeling it. And so many women resonate with that. It's so common.

So you mentioned it before, you said, I started Taking in three days in, I started feeling this way. First of all, I'd love to know a couple things because I remember reading a study and I went, that is the dumbest thing I've ever heard. And I'm sure it's just because that's the only study they have. So therefore that is what it is. Because I thought, gosh, if this makes you feel so much better, couldn't you just start it whenever? There was this whole study that said, you know, if you didn't start it when your hormones were dipping and you've now been in menopause for X amount of years, or you're postmenopausal for X amount of years, you can't take hormones, it won't work. Which I was like, what do you mean? You still have the receptors. They didn't lock the doors, I'm assuming. So first of all, how quickly do you start to notice a difference with these things? Should you be focused with your doctor more on correcting the symptoms, correcting to the lab values? What do you do there? And then I'd love to address that. If someone's listening to this now and they're 60, 65, they aren't on hormones. They were afraid before and now they're like, game on. Can they start?

Those are big questions. Okay, so for the, you know, how soon should you expect to feel something, et cetera? What I generally tell people is within the first 30 days of starting on hormone replacement therapy, you should be noticing a difference. So if you get to the 30 day mark and you can't tell one darn bit of difference, it means we've kind of missed the boat and we need to go back and rethink depending on how we're giving you the hormones. Some forms of hormones kick in faster versus others. So hormone pellets happen within sometimes 48 hours. Hormone creams can sometimes take a couple weeks. But even within the same form, different women respond differently. But at least within 30 days, you should feel better in some way. And in terms of whether you should treat to the test, my opinion is we just want you to be, we want you to feel good and be the healthiest version of you. And measuring hormones is actually really tricky, especially if you're on a topical hormone cream. Patches are a little bit more consistent. Hormone creams are really tricky to measure. Hormone pellets, they change depending on how long you've been on the pellet. There's just all these variables. And for women who are not menopausal yet, our hormones change over the course of the month. So one week and the next week and the next week, your numbers are going to be different because it matters where you are in your cycle. So hormone testing is kind of complicated. It's not like paint by numbers. We do want to make sure we're in the right general ballpark. But because it's a little tricky, a lot of doctors will tell their patients they won't measure their hormones. If you go in and ask to have your hormones measured, whether you're on hormone replacement therapy or not, you may be told, we don't do that. You may be told you're too young to have a problem. You may be told that the hormone testing is not valid or it doesn't work. There's a lot of reasons why doctors don't want to do it. But, you know, your blood sugar changes all day, every day, depending on what you've eaten. And we still measure that. We just do it in a smart way so that we know. Were you fasting? Were you not fasting? We just have to know how to interpret the results. I would say, though, that we should be treating you to feel better and just make sure that the labs are in the right ballpark as opposed to trying to give you more and more and more hormones in order to get you to some arbitrary number. Because one person might feel great at this number, one person might feel great at that number. So the numbers aren't the whole picture.

Yeah. And it always has made sense to me. Well, first of all, I keep looking at this going, whatever time in your life where you are really in your optimal amount for you would have been the great time to know. But your optimal amount is not necessarily my optimal amount. And wouldn't you want to really get your adrenals really good, all your lifestyle habits really good, you're sleeping well, your stress is managed, your adrenals are doing well, your thyroid's kicking, you know, you've got your lifestyle habits in place, and you use the hormones that you need to feel better, but not more than that.

I think that is so important because we always want to put the hormones in a healthy body. And if somebody is going to have risks or side effects from the hormones, it's not so much the hormones, it's what your body does with the hormones. So if you don't have enough antioxidants in your system, if you're too inflamed, those are the kind of things that are going to increase the chances that you're going to get some of the side Effects. So when people come to see me, what we do is a whole wellness program. So we want to look at your lifestyle habits, your stress levels, your physical activity, your nutrition. We want to look at your gut health, and are you effectively getting toxins out of your system on a regular basis? So we want to make sure that we're getting you the healthiest you that you can be. And then the hormones are kind of the icing on the cake. But a lot of hormone symptoms get better just with lifestyle habits. So we still need to get back to those women over 65. But, you know, when women come in, we start off by sending them off to go get a test for their hormones. And in the meantime, we get started on lifestyle changes. And a lot of times, by the time they come back to get their test results, they're already telling us, I'm sleeping better, my hot flashes are less. My brain is waking up. There's so much that women can do on their own with lifestyle habits.

I love that too, Deb, because you really want to know how you can feel before you do any of that stuff. So you know what you need?

Yes.

Because you won't know once you start those. Then you don't know.

Is it the hormones? Yeah.

Yeah. So that's fantastic. And I know. I didn't forget. We are going to ask about Someone's postmenopausal. They're 65. They're hearing this. They're like, okay, is it too late for me?

This is a big, big, big one. Because there are a lot of doctors out there who will just say, no, you can't have it because you passed that magical birth.

You blew it.

Yep. Or somebody will have been on hormone therapy, and now they hit 60 or 65, and they're told, I'm not prescribing this for you anymore. You have to stop it because you're 65.

Because that was how long the study went for. Like, why did they say that? Because I've heard that one, too.

What happened is they recognized from this study that, Oops. Women were having breast cancer when we hadn't expected it. At least the women on the synthetic progestin pills. So the thinking became, use hormones only when absolutely necessary, like when the woman is driving the doctor crazy enough that they just want to get you out the door. Fine, I'll write the prescription for you, but only when absolutely necessary. In the lowest dose you can tolerate for the least amount of time and get off of it. Because we felt like these hormones were dangerous. But in I want to say it was 2019, the North American Menopause Society put out a new position statement. And what they said was, there's no medical science to back up the fact that we're telling these women to stop their hormones. We know that these hormones are really good for bone health, we know they're really good for genitourinary health. So the vaginal dryness, urinary leakage, painful sex, they're the best thing for hot flashes. So if women are getting benefit from being on hormone therapy, there's no science to say that we should be telling them to stop it just because they've reached a certain birthday. Despite that being the official recommendations from the North American Menopause Society, it doesn't seem to have seeped into doctors brains. And, and so most doctors will still recommend their patients come off hormones. Now if you've never been on hormones, the reason that doctors are hesitant to start is because in that Women's Health Initiative trial, first of all, the average age of the women in the trial was 62. So more than 10 years out from menopause. So they'd already been 10 years before they started them on hormone therapy. The average women, a lot of them, were 72 when they started. And what we found was in women who were relatively older, there was an increase in the risk for blood clots. We know that any kind of oral estrogen and synthetic progestin can increase the risk for blood clots. But the older you got, the more important that was. And for women who were 50 to 59, they really didn't see that. But when you were in your 60s, it happened a little bit, in your 70s, it happened more. And so the thinking is that there's this window of opportunity we need to get you when you're relatively younger in order to prevent these heart disease risks. Because a blood clot in your heart is a heart attack and a blood clot in your brain is a stroke. But when we really look at how we give the hormones, if we were to give the hormones in the bioidentical form through your skin, the ones that don't increase the risk for blood clots, then it should be fine. And we don't have studies saying it's not fine to give the bioidentical hormones through the skin. But it's just this old thinking based on the synthetic pills that we used to give to everybody. For me, if somebody comes in, even if they're more than 10 years out from menopause, certainly we should have a conversation about it. They need to understand why some doctors think this way. I mean, I don't think we should be saying everything is sunshine and roses. What we do know is that while estrogen is really important for preventing heart disease in women, if you start it when you're, say, 65, it's not going to go backwards and erase whatever things happened over the previous 15 years when you were menopausal. But it can still help your bones. It still helps with mood and energy and skin health and sexual health. It still has a lot of benefits. And so the question is, do the benefits outweigh the risks? And to me, if we're doing it the right way, the benefits still strongly outweigh the risks. So it's still an area of controversy. And sometimes it can be hard for women to get the help they need from their doctors.

Speaking of that, because you just cited so many examples of practitioners taking their patients off of it or not giving it to them or offering them Prozac or a birth control pill, how does someone get the help that they need?

So what you're looking for is you're looking for a functional medicine provider. And what you're wanting, this is my opinion. You don't just want a prescription for bioidentical hormones instead of synthetic hormones. That's a good place to start. At least. If you're going to get a prescription for something, you want it to be bioidentical. But what you're really looking for is you're looking for a provider who's going to look at you as a whole person. They're going to understand how the different hormones play a role, what's going on with your stress hormones and your thyroid and your insulin, and how all of these interplay with what's going on with your sex hormones and what's happening in your gut. So many toxins in the environment are hormone disruptors. So if you're full of toxins and then we put more hormones in the mix, sometimes that's not a great combination. So you're looking for somebody who can look at the whole picture. And I do have a couple of websites, if it's okay, that we can send people to.

Sure. And what we can do, too, is we'll put all of this in the show notes. I'm going to put your ebook this Is Not Normal in the show notes too. And we're going to put that all@jjvirgin.com estrogen, since that seems to be the key hormone we've been talking the most about. We'll put all of that there we'll put these websites. You want to just mention them and what they have on them.

Yeah. One of them is called a4m.com. So the letter A, the number 4, the letter M. And the other one is ifm stands for institute of functional medicine.org and those are both organizations that train practitioners. The regular doctors are flocking to these places in order to learn a better way to help their patients. Because more and more doctors are recognizing that just prescribing prescriptions all day long isn't really working.

It's not much fun for them either. It's not why they went to medical school.

No. So much burnout amongst doctors because it's so unsatisfying.

Yes. Well, this has been really fantastic. It was exactly what I was looking for because I've been really wanting to unpack this subject and help people understand how much this can help. You know, again, you look at just. Even from a quality of life standpoint, forget the. I always say brain, bone, heart. And what was interesting, Deb, is I used to work out of one doctor's office doing nutrition. And I would also roll through and just walk them through the labs the doctor was ordering. And, you know, so we were looking at cardiovascular profiles. Back then it was the Berkeley Heart Lab. And so I would monitor people year after year. And I kept seeing women when they had gone through menopause. So I had their labs pre and I had their labs post. Unbelievable shifts. All of a sudden, their hscrp, so this marker for systemic inflammation, shoots up their small, dense LDL particles. They shoot up all these things that are such risk for heart disease, just shot up basically overnight. And these were people that we were. Everything was great. They were living a healthy lifestyle. And then bam. It was like, holy smokes. And then the other one that was so clear to me is just physically just skin.

Yeah. You turn into your grandma overnight.

I know. I was like, your skin, the shift in skin, the difference in your skin on hormones and off hormones is night and day. So just the basic quality of life is so huge for this. So I'm just glad that we can get the right information out there. This has been like a. A master class in bioidentical hormone replacement therapy. So thank you so much. And again, I want to remind everybody you're going to be able to grab. I'll have a forum and ifm's websites. And also Dr. Deb Mathew has her book, this is not Normal. So you'll be able to grab that. That's her gift. Thank you. Deb for that. And thank you more for being really a voice for women out there, for taking a stand, for getting this information out there, and for spending the time with me today. I so appreciate it.

Thank you so much. I think this is an important topic.

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