Lose Your Mind to Reclaim Your Health with Josh Pais

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Lose your mind. How on earth could that help your health? Well, it turns out it can make a massive transformation in your health. And I have the author of Lose Your Mind and a working actor. And yes, you're a working actor, is about to show you what you can do that can totally transform your health and your life. And it all boils down to a couple simple things, which is what we're gonna be talking about today. And you're gonna hear about a phrase that is going to become my new mantra for how I'm gonna stay present and get more into my body. So You'll have to tune in to hear that one. I've got Josh Peiss with me. He has been a buddy now for a couple years since I've been hanging out with his wife, who's one of my favorite humans. He is an acclaimed actor. You've seen him on— I actually didn't even realize this when we first met. We were hanging out at a Dr. Joe Dispenza retreat, and I was like, where do I know this guy? Where do I know this guy? Well, turns out he was on one of my favorite shows, Ray Donovan, as Stu. And I was like, once I Once I saw that, I couldn't unsee it. He also was a Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle and on The Joker, Law and Order, TMNT, all sorts of different things, over 150 different film and TV credits. That's just the tip of the iceberg. He's the creator of Committed Impulse, which is this breakthrough training method used by top performers, Navy SEALs, entrepreneurs, He set out by training actors and realized that he had a technique that could help people really master being present and master being authentic. It's such a crazy thing when you think about it that you have to be authentic, just be, right? And really help you overcome anxiety, or as you're going to hear in this interview, maybe lean into it, experience it. So his book we're going to be diving in today is called Lose Your Mind: The Path to Creative Invincibility. And we're going to actually get in there and talk about Creativity and how to unleash yours and why that is so important now more than ever. We're gonna walk through some of the practical tools he has in the book to unlock your creative flow and create emotional resilience. It's actually, when you go through this, as we started to talk about in this interview, I'm like, this needs to be like taught in every school. He has got this wild background. He's literally the son of a physicist who worked with Einstein. And he blends together the background of being raised by that type of a scientist and the storytelling of a world-class actor that he uses to help people really show up, be fully alive, fully present. And by the way, yes, that works great for actors. It also works great for us in life. And it also turns out can have a pretty dramatic impact on your health. So that's what we're diving into again. Josh Peiss is with me. I'm going to put all the cool stuff that he's got for you at jjvirgin.com/loseyourmind, and I will be right back with Josh. Stay with me. Josh Peiss, welcome to Well Beyond 40.

Thank you. Great to see you. Great to be here. Ready to party.

Well, this is a first for us. It's a first for us here on Well Beyond 40 to have a ninja, Ninja Turtle, is that what they are?

Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle.

Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle, Stu, all these characters wrapped up in one human on the show. And what the heck, why are we having an actor on Well Beyond 40? Well, you're about to find out. And it's all around your new book, which I love the title, "Lose Your Mind." Tell me, what was that moment in your own life when you realized you had to find a new way to deal with stress and emotions? What broke this whole thing open for you?

Well, I went to acting school. I did pretty well in acting school, came back to New York where I grew up, and I started auditioning. And it was disastrous because I was so filled with nervousness, anxiety, fear, which led to so much doubt. Can I do this? Am I making a big mistake? And it was really one night that I remembered something that my father had told me when I was a little kid, when I was 6, when I was trying to figure out what his job was. And just a little backstory, like my father's office had this floor-to-ceiling blackboard and he would go up there and squiggle and do all these things that he called calculations.. And it didn't make sense to me because I knew what other kids' dads did, which were carpenters and drug dealers and taxi drivers and like all the normal New York City dad things. And so when I asked him, and this is my remembering at that terrible night of, you know, what am I going to do with my life? But when I remembered that conversation I had with him and I said, what do you do? What is your job? And He said, "Do you see this table?" There was a little table next to me. I was like, "Yes, but what's your job?" And he said, "Do you see your knee?" And I was like, "Yes." And he said, "The smallest part of that table and the smallest part of your knee are the same things, atoms. And that's what I explore, the building blocks of the universe." And then he kind of picked up his briefcase, walked out, and I was like, "What?" It was almost like a hallucinogenic experience at 6 where everything is atoms. And just about my dad, he was a theoretical physicist who worked with Einstein for 11 years. So cut back to me in bed remembering this. And I started to think, well, if my body is made out of atoms, then all this fear and anxiety and nervousness that I'm feeling when I'm auditioning must have something to do with atoms. And I started experimenting feeling what I was— any emotion as an atomic vibration. If I was frustrated, it often felt like a pulsating energy behind my chest. Similarly, anxiety was also there, which just felt like the atoms were just in a chaotic spin. And sadness often felt like, and still feels like, it's like the atoms are moving downward. And what that shifted for me was I started to feel the actual sensations, as opposed to identifying them and judging them as good or bad. And that opened everything up for me because I didn't have to keep trying to manage what I was feeling, which I think is what screws everybody up. But I could just start to play and create and live with this. You know, it's what being in a human body is. It's a vibrational system. And there's so much out there that we have to manage it and alter it. And this set of vibrations is good, but this set of vibrations is bad.

So you talk about managing it, but what about people who just flat out suppress it? Like they're not even managing, they're just not even aware of it.

That's a form of managing it. There's a pattern that's happening, that something's happening, and they've developed a system to suppress it, to not feel it as much. And as soon as we disconnect from the body, And that's suppression is sending a signal. I don't want to feel you. And because we're alive, our attention has to go somewhere. And that's when we end up in our mind. And our mind is telling us in those situations that we suck, that we're behind, that everyone else is ahead, that I'm too fat, I'm too thin, I'm too this, I'm too that. Mental drama, you know, and then the whole thing is spinning all day long. All day long.

Yeah.

But we have to recognize that managing, suppressing, enhancing, shifting what's in the body leads us into our head.

Okay. Now you talk about this 7 to 12 second window that can shift you out of this. Yes. So, and I'm thinking about before in this, like, you would seem to be in a very sympathetic, like, overdrive situation in this suppressing, managing, etc. What's happening here and how do you make this shift?

So I've been training actors for 30 years, and then over, over the years, people from all professions have been coming to my Committed Impulse classes. And that what I've found is that when somebody actually connects to what they are feeling, to whatever emotion, to whatever frequency is in their body, when they fully connect to it, it starts to shift and shift and shift and shift. So if you feel fear and you let yourself fully feel that vibrational frequency, and I mean, let yourself feel it, and it may be intense, but that's fine. It's going to move to something else and then something else into something else. And that needs to be our guide track, not listening to this.

Where does someone even start with that?

Well, do you want to do it right now?

Yeah, let's do it.

Okay. What's the loudest sensation in your body in this moment? What's speaking? What's the biggest vibrational or emotional— like, just take a breath and you can let go of being— of interviewing me.

I know. I was like, well, the biggest thing right now is thinking about, like, the flow of the interview.

You know, too bad.

All right, but behind that, yeah, like, what do you feel in your body?

Like, stepping out of your mind of like wanting to make this work, and so far I think you're doing a great job. So I want this to be fabulous, but like, just slow down for a minute and just see. Okay, where do you feel the most energy?

Right here.

Okay, and what are the atoms doing? If you feel it as just the energetic movement there? Is it like compressing, spinning, lifting?

It feels twirly, spinning.

Spinning. Okay, good. So just take a couple breaths and feel it. Is there an emotional content to it?

And again, like, I'm trying not to intellectualize this, right?

Okay.

It feels like anxiety stuff.

Okay, good. Yes. So, and anxiety is fantastic. It's built into our DNA to feel anxiety. And if we can not hold it as the bad thing, then it's just like this stuff to play with. So really just don't try to admit— really feel as much of that anxiety as you can. Just breathe and like welcome it. Welcome like just that vibrational frequency. And what do you feel now in that area?

I have like a crazy 3 weeks of putting on an event and all these speaking things, and I've been suppressing how much anxiety I have around the whole situation for a while.

Like, yeah, that's natural.

And Managing it. And I'm realizing from what you're saying, because all of a sudden it's like, as I'm kind of feeling into it, then it's kind of going away.

Yeah, well, it's shifting. And just you— like, people watching this will see, like, just you tuning into it, like you settled, like you landed. Could you feel that?

Mm-hmm.

So it's all good if we can get that all these sensations are good and The more we connect to them, the more it opens our creative channel and it shifts and it shifts and it shifts. Typically, there's so many books, whatever, out there, like how to get rid of anxiety, how to deal with fear forever. But these— what I am interested in, what I teach and what the book is about is increasing your tolerance for your full range of body sensations. Because if you can increase your tolerance for whatever is happening, you're free, you're creatively invincible. And the subtitle of the book is The Path to Creative Invincibility. So what do you feel right now?

What I feel is a little curiosity around all of this.

Okay.

When you say that, because I realize that, first of all, like, you and I went to a Dr. Joe Dispenza retreat together. Until I started doing that, and it took me about a year of doing his retreats before I stopped having shortness of breath. I've had shortness of breath, anxiety my entire— since teenage years up, right?

Mm-hmm.

Trying to stuff it down, which the meditation finally— I finally got through that, but I realize I think I might have just shifted it, not really addressed it. And what you're saying here is opening up a whole new. It's very different than that type of a thing. Yes. In that you're not trying to manage it or teach your parasympathetic nervous system how to come on. Like, no, you're just saying lean into— it's a whole different process.

It's completely different. But it's, I think, the third chapter of my book. I talk about the greatest myth of our time, and I firmly believe this is the biggest myth of our time. And it's something that is so ingrained in us that we don't, we don't even see it. And that myth is that there are good sensations and bad sensations. And by that can be emotions, energetic patterns. But that's like walking through the forest and going, that's a good plant. That's a bad plant. It's like, this is what it's like to be in a human body. It's going to vibrate this way, that way, this way, that way. But it's all good. It's, it's completely natural. Like, somebody came up with an idea that this spinning that you felt in here is anxiety, and anxiety is put in the bad category. If you have anxiety, something's wrong. What happens is people feel anxiety, they naturally, if it's bad, you try to get rid of it, but you're just like trapping a squirrel in a smaller and smaller cage. As opposed to, like, breathe. Like, yeah, it might feel like you're going over a roller coaster, the top of a roller coaster. But then it's like you let it have its life and it moves, and then it moves to the next and the next. That's aliveness.

And I can't help but wonder if we've created these names for things. It's like in the health space, we have all these diagnoses. And I always feel like the minute you give someone a diagnosis, they become it. And it's a nightmare, right?

Right. And it's unfixable. It's like it's a serious condition.

Yes. Then you're going to own it. I remember we had a gal that used to come to my gym and she was seeking diagnoses. She'd get a new one and then she'd like— I was like, oh my goodness. Right. Just, you're this crazy. But just the anxiety thing, I just, as we were going through this, I go, wait a minute, actually, I think this is excitement. It's not anxiety.

At all.

Yeah. And what if some of this stuff here, we're just— by stuffing it down, we're making it negative when it actually could be a positive thing?

Yes. What I've been experimenting with people, like initially with actors, of like, well, whatever charge is there, like, that's your creative fuel. And then when people from all professions have been coming and training with me, It's like, you know, I've had like lawyers who got so shut down when they were doing their closing arguments, and they were just managing themselves so much. But they noticed like, as the extent that they managed themselves was relative to how much the jury was like, could barely keep their eyes open. And we have to realize in terms of connecting with an audience, whether that's an audience of one or thousands, people want you. They want you more than your message. And if you can connect to you with your message, that's powerful. And that means that when you feel one of the negatives— and I put that in rabbit ears, like anxiety— you need to stay with the anxiety and with the people, your audience that you're dealing with. And that will be so genuine, so amazing. Same thing with nervous. If you allow the vibrational frequency of nervousness to be there and you stay connected to who you're talking to, you're absolutely brilliantly truthful and compelling to watch. And that is so counter to so much of what we're taught. Nervousness only appears as nervousness when you're trying to, you know, lock it down.

Yeah.

But if you just ride that energy, it's the best. It's so much fun. And we've come up with this distorted notion of how to live in a human body. That's what this book is to give a completely different paradigm about what's happening in our body. And the more we stay in our body, the quieter our mind is.

It's actually how to be authentic, really.

Yes.

Everyone talks about being authentic and they're like going to work on being— I go, wait a minute, wait a minute.

Right.

But the other side of it, from the health standpoint of it, I can't help but thinking, and maybe you've seen some of this, is someone who is shutting this down, keeping this— and especially women, like, you know, and, you know, you're around a midlife woman, so you know the perfectionists, our performance, all the stuff that we do in our head, right? And I think women are way harder on women than men are. So I gotta imagine this would lead to all sorts of health stuff too.

If you simply look at emotion as atoms moving at a certain frequency. And you keep jamming, you know, what tends to happen is, okay, I don't want to feel fear, or let's say I don't want to feel sadness. So every time there's an inkling of that, you jam it, and you jam it into a part of your body. And eventually that part of our body goes from like the frequency into like matter. And that's why there'll be tightness starting to appear in the body, which is the result if you haven't had an impact injury or have a disease. But I don't want to go in there because I'm just some guy from the street who came up with this stuff. So what happens is you feel something, you jam it, you feel something, you jam it, and that area starts to get locked. And then you have less access to your body because you have these areas of lockboxes in it. And the less access we have to our body, 2 things. One is your mind is going to go off the charts. Like if you think of people that are very tense and very tight in their body, you can tell they're in their head all the time. That's where they're living because they don't have a choice. The other thing is that if Chinese medicine talks about chi and that unblocking energy and illness comes from these suppressed locked areas in our body, and it can be undone. And there's a whole chapter and an audio that comes with the book of unshackling these areas. And it's not a psychological process. These areas have sensation in them, and they want to be felt. Your body wants you to feel what's ever there, and it'll be in optimal health. So by going in and Feeling these areas, yeah, there'll be like bursts of, whoa, maybe you'll even cry for a minute. But then that area is going to open up. And then the blood flow is going to increase. Your aliveness is going to increase. You'll be able to see who and what's in front of you better.

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It feels like some of this stuff, like, this probably starts from an early age. And you do this and you suppress and it becomes like feedback loops, then we get to where we are now. And yes, I can feel these things. And again, it was like a year of meditation to get through the point where I could take a deep breath. But for the average person listening here who maybe hasn't really done any real body work, because I also would wonder if something like Reiki work, or what's that other massage therapy that people scream and cry and—

Rolfing, you mean?

Rolfing. I actually did that.

Right. I've done that a couple of times.

Yeah. So are those techniques doing some of this?

Absolutely. I mean, putting, like, working on a part of the body, if their focus is on to feeling what's in there, and to going in and breathing it, that will help open it up. But if you don't see the great myth at play, that you're continuing to hold, this is good, this is bad, chances are you're going to build it back up the next time you feel it. Yeah. But those things are definitely— bodywork is amazing. But having the knowledge of how you got jammed up in the first place will prevent you from getting jammed up going forward. And that's so much of what the book is about.

How would you uncover— because I would imagine that a lot of this are some blind spots that we have. Like, does the— are you walk through how to uncover these things? Is this like peeling an onion?

Yeah, a lot of it is about how to get present. And by— I can go over their 4 access points if you want me to touch on them.

Yes, please.

I can touch on them briefly, or I can touch on them so that people can have an experience of it. I'll do a little rushed—

Okay. And I think you're also giving away a free gift of this too. So we'll give you the overview and then you can take this with you. And of course, if you get the book, you will also get You have a guide that you take them through too, of an audio of this?

Absolutely. Yeah. There's several audios that you get with the book and different exercises.

I'm super excited about this. Like, this strikes me that you started this from being a better performer and really being able to access everything.

Yeah.

But this strikes me that it's a huge impact in health.

Oh my God. Literally, I've had people like come in class that have been literally like their bodies are like this. Like one guy, his shoulder was literally like this. And I had him connect to his body. And the more within a, like a 20-minute exercises— exercise, like he went from this to this by just feeling that all everything that he had compressed in, you know, along his spine. He'd compressed all this emotion and sensation. And so by just feeling it, like the body— again, the body wants to be felt. You stay connected to the moment, you stay connected to your body, you're doing one of the simplest, easiest, and most healing things for your body. It's there, this human living in a human body, like it or not, is full of frequencies. And we'd have to learn how to party with it. It's awesome. And I always, I'll tell my students, like, in 100 years from now, you'll be floating around up there and you'll be like, oh, anxiety. I remember anxiety. Oh, that was— I wish I could feel it again, you know. All right, the 4 access points. Bring it back. The 4 access points to presence. So there's no order to these, but I will say, whatever your eyes are on right now, see— and the first one is connecting to your immediate environment— experiment seeing what's there in terms of color, shape, texture, lightness, and darkness. So you're seeing maybe how a dog or a baby might see. You're literally seeing what's there. So you're taking out like, oh, I know what that is, because our mind wants us to categorize everything so we experience nothing. But literally taking the time to literally see what's there is one of the access points. So just everybody, just whatever is in front of you, look and see it in terms of color, shape, texture, lightness and darkness, and the space around whatever you're seeing. Okay, so next, and what that does is shift— what we're experimenting is shifting from listening to this, which is the same story every day, to tuning into what's real. Another one is to breathe, but to breathe to feel, not to breathe to get rid of what you're feeling, to almost like use the breath like you're putting gasoline on the embers of sensation in your body. So just take a couple breaths to feel more. And you can feel what is the loudest sensation in my body. For me, it's like a kind of a flowing in the center of my chest and just to feel that. And then to go— the third is the body itself and just tune into what is the energetic frequency in there? What emotion is in there? What feels contracted? What feels expansive? What's the difference between the right side of your body and the left side of your body? And then one of my favorites is I'm back. So anytime that you catch that your mind has taken you, you know, you might be in a conversation and then all of a sudden you're like, later. Yeah, I'm going to do it. Yeah, I got to do that later. And then, yeah. And then you've totally missed what's happening. So you don't— there's a period where you don't know that your mind has gotten you. And then there's a moment that you realize that you just were like, not here. And in my classes, I have people say, I'm back. So you hear people going, I'm back, I'm back, I'm back, because we're not trying to get anywhere. And that the I'm back, it builds the muscle to stay present, to come out of here, get back in your body, get back to your immediate environment and keep the breath going. And those 4 access points, they open the creative channel. They give you access to your brilliance that is beyond what you can come up with. Like, I know for you, you've had so many insights and have come up with so many brilliant ideas. And I'm sure some of them came out of hard work, but some of them just were like—

Truthfully, you know what, Josh? None of them ever come sitting at my desk, ever. Right.

Never.

Yes. I'm sitting listening to this going, God, creativity is the most underrated thing. That's probably the most valuable thing we can all— Yes. And we do nothing. Like, the only time that creativity comes out of me is when I get out of behind my desk. If I'm at my desk, there's no creativity happening. Right. If I'm out paddleboarding, if I'm with the dogs, if I'm at the gym, anywhere outside of here.

Yes. And wait, I just got to interrupt because when you're paddleboarding, you're breathing, you're in your body, you're connected to the immediate environment. And those are the access points happening naturally. And that opens everything up. My father would tell me that he, because he worked with all the leading scientists of his day, so many scientists would be going for a walk and talked about this one scientist who got onto the bus, on the Fifth Avenue bus, and the moment he got on the bus, like, this enormous thesis that he had been working on came to him. And so a lot of the book is to how to access this stuff, which is available to us, but it always seems mystical or something like that. Yeah, it's— there's ways to access your creativity. And the reason that that's so important is because there's so many things in the world and the planet that need creativity to solve. And scientists are incredibly creative, as well as artists and entrepreneurs. And having access to creativity will give us the solutions that we need. If we're all in our head and all working from here, we're closing the channel.

I would also think that creativity— I know creativity is fun.

Yes.

It's exhilarating. But I would also think it's kind of like— I can't think of any time that I've ever been depressed and creative at the same time.

Yeah.

Or anxious and creative.

Yeah. When you're creative, it's like the being wants to be creative. It's craving— when you're creating, you're having fun. And when you're fun, you know, if you're having fun, you're present. And if you're present, you're— the creative channel is ready. It's— we have to just expand our ability to receive our insights, to receive our brilliance.

Okay, so someone grabbing the book Yeah. Going through this.

You mean this book?

That book.

This one?

That book right there. This one? Lose your mind. And you have workshops too. Let's walk through everything you have. But what I want to do is—

But wait, what were you going to say? You said—

Oh, someone. So someone grabbing the book. Yeah. I love quick wins.

Okay.

You know, in my world, I'm like, what can I give someone so that they can start to notice how much better they feel within days. You can give people, it seems like, techniques that they can start to notice the difference pretty darn quickly.

Absolutely. Like, while the book is loaded with stories of things that I've learned working with all the leading actors of our day, like De Niro and Meryl Streep and Joaquin Phoenix and so many people, and I've learned so much, but what I've learned with these people in high-pressure situations is applicable to everyone. And so it's— there are stories about my life, but it's not about me. It's just things that I've learned that are so digestible and that can make a difference, like you said, immediately. And when you're present, it's like, boom, there you go.

Yeah.

And then your mind will get you and then you come on back.

Yeah, I'm back. I find the presence thing. I wrote that down. I'm like, that is the thing I'm going to bring right in. Tim will be so happy. Yes. Because he'll say something. I realize I have no idea what he just said. I ask him a question. He gives me the answer. I didn't listen to one bit of— I went over there.

Yeah. No, I mean, this is— but we have to recognize we're in a culture that is designing us to be distracted. We have to recognize that when we pick this up, it's a drug and it's a suppression technique. So many people I see there have a moment of uncomfortableness, a moment of boredom, and they go in here and they're disconnecting from their body, which is so unhealthy.

I love the I'm back thing because it reminds me of— I had a mentor when I was 30 who made me wear rubber bands on my wrist, and every time I had a limiting belief, I had to snap the rubber band. You can imagine, like, when I first started wearing it, it was like snap, snap, snap, snap, snap. Right? And I'm like, I'm not gonna have any skin on my— I had like raw wrist. But it's interesting because 30 years later, if I hear it, if I hear someone with a limiting belief, if I— and we all have an upper limits problem, but otherwise we'd all be like, you know, doing everything amazing. But I catch myself all the time. It's like I have that rubber band on my wrist to this day. And I look at that, I'm back as a rubber band on my wrist.

Like, yeah.

That's so powerful.

It's incredible. It's mighty. And from my point of view, we just want to completely step out of the paradigm of listening to this, even if it's going like, I'm great. I'm so great right now. I'm really, really great. First off, that's the seducer. And you're going to be like, really? Yeah, except you have a few flaws. And here's a bliss. But I have this image, you know, you're wearing a motorcycle helmet with speakers that are going like, oh, I'm not so good. And you're going like, oh, I've got to fix myself. I really, yeah, I got to, I am good. And it's literally take the helmet off completely and put it in the closet. Like step out of this, lose your mind, get rid of it. And then you have access to something so rich.

My son coming out of this traumatic brain injury, it's like, there's voices in my head. I go, honey, we all have voices in our head. He thought this was something from the brain injury. I go, nope, that's just all of us.

Yeah.

Just got to quiet that one down.

Yeah. Or I wouldn't say it's even quieting it. It's turning up this other stuff. You want to shift the volume of what we're listening to. The more we feel our body, the more connected we are to what's in front of us. We're just not in here. This is never going to stop, and it's not worth trying to improve it, the chatter.

So for the person listening—

Yes. Hi, person. Hi, person listening.

Hi, person. People. But we're talking to just that one person, but we know there's more. You're grabbing the book. We'll put everything in the show notes. And you'll also— you're giving everyone the 4 steps that they can go deeper in. So you'll get that at JJVirgin.com. Jjvirgin.com/loseyourmind. There we'll also have all the information on the book and how to get the bonuses, including that training. Yes. The person listening, like the thing they've heard this, I know I'm taking them back, but the thing they could take with them right now that they walk away from this podcast and they do one thing, what would that one shift be for them?

To increase their tolerance for what they feel right now, to experiment not shutting it down, and you're opening up yourself to having incredible aliveness. It's all good. Welcome what you feel right now and your whole life will blossom. It's that simple.

It's that simple.

And it's just We've gone askew with what we're feeling. What it is to be in a human body is somehow wrong. And that's just, I don't know quite how we got there. I mean, I can, I have some thoughts about it, but it's not worth going into. But it's like, it's all good. Nothing's bad. And sometimes it's going to, the vibration is going to increase. And sometimes it's going to be very subtle. And we just need to welcome it. And play. It's all about playing and having fun, ultimately.

I will tell you one final thing I used to ask when I'd work with people one-on-one. Part of what I would do in my health history was ask them what they do for fun. And especially the women, they'd look at me like, huh?

Right.

I go to my kid's soccer game. I'm like, yeah, that— hard no. That doesn't count.

Right.

The fact that you're leaning into fun, play, creativity, feeling these feelings without judging them. Yeah, it's just their feeling.

And if you are judging them, that's just your mind. And you say, I'm back, and return to the body.

I'm back. It's going to be my mantra.

Your mind is not going to— your mind may not like my book, but your being will love it. Thank you for getting it.

All right. Lose Your Mind with Josh Peiss. Yes. Thank you so much. You're so great.

Thank you, JJ. You're awesome.

Oh, you're the best. Okay, I'm putting it at jjvirgin.com/loseyourmind one more time, reminding everybody. Lose your mind and let me know. Guess you don't want to find it again, right? You want to find your body.

No, lose it and have a party.

Leave it. I'm back. All right, so literally that is the mantra that I'm going to be using because as I was sharing, I will ask my husband a question and then realize he has answered me and I don't know where I went, but I wasn't present. And presence has been something that has been a struggle and effort for me my entire life. That and stuffing everything down so that I feel like I can't breathe and I'm anxious. This kind of was a therapy session for me, as some of these things tend to be, but I love things that you can immediately put into action. So think about what you can grab from this session, and then of course, grab the book, jjvirgin.com/loseyourmind. You'll hear about the cool gift you get and also the book bonus page. So when you grab the book, you can get all sorts of great resources too. And I will see you in the next show. Alright. Be sure to join me next time for more tools, tips, and techniques you can use to look and feel your best and be built to last. Would you prefer an ad-free experience? Join my VIP podcast at subscribe2jj.com for just $4.99 a month or $49.99 a year to unlock uninterrupted uninterrupted, ad-free access to all the episodes and insights you love. Also, I'd love to connect with you and hear your thoughts on the podcast. Here's how. First, subscribe to the podcast and leave an honest review. Second, take a screenshot of your review. And third, text it to 813-565-2627. That's 813-565-2627. 1-800-313-565-2627. When you do, I'll reply using my brand new Virtual JJ. It's my on-demand virtual self built from my books, talks, and years of experience so I can interact with you directly. You'll make my day and I can't wait to hear from you. Thanks for tuning in and I'll catch you on the next episode. Hey, JJ here, and just a reminder that the Well Beyond 40 podcast offers health, wellness, fitness, and nutritional information that's designed for educational and entertainment purposes only. You should not rely on this information as a substitute for, nor does it replace professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you have any concerns or questions about your health, you should always consult with a physician or other healthcare professional. Make sure that you do not disregard, avoid, or delay obtaining medical or health-related advice from your healthcare professional because of something you may have heard on the show or read in our show notes. The use of any information provided on the show is solely at your own risk.