Oxytocin drives libido through trust and connection, not just testosterone. Three things kill desire: hormonal imbalance, relational disconnect, and physical pain. When intimacy raises oxytocin, it creates a feedback loop that increases both frequency and desire.
Now, you mentioned libido, and everyone tends to think of libido as more of a testosterone issue. What's the role of oxytocin here?
Oxytocin, first of all, helps with that trust factor, the enjoyment factor, the joyful factor, that connection factor. And when we think of key areas that disconnect, that interrupt our libido, our desire, it is, you know, issues with desire straight off. So it can be the hormonal. It can be disconnect in a relationship and it can be discomfort or pain. So that disconnect is a really key piece. And when you have oxytocin and intimacy, when you have intimacy and you increase oxytocin, that's a positive feedback to have more intimacy. So the frequency of intercourse can increase or intimacy can increase in general.
