Vaginal pain during sex is a red flag, usually caused by pelvic floor muscles that won't relax. Insufficient arousal or lubrication can also be culprits, but they're separate issues. Persistent pain needs attention.
It shouldn't hurt when something enters the vagina, right? That's a really big red flag. Like, why is it hurting? Very often it's because the pelvic floor is not relaxing. And obviously there's other things, like if you were to have sex and it hurts, it could be that you're not aroused enough or you're not lubricated enough, and those are separate issues. But sometimes it really is the pelvic floor muscles are not relaxed. So if sex has never been pain-free for you, that's a big red flag.
