A speaker addresses business leaders who have become emotionally defensive, arguing that unhealthy extremes come from overusing strengths and erecting 'walls' around the heart. Rather than demanding wholesale change, the speaker recommends gradual shifts—"taking one brick at a time"—toward healthier behavior to improve intimate relationships.
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What I know if you end on the unhealthy end of the spectrum is that's when you've just taken your strengths too far. So I'm not going to ask you to change because I know that if you're on the unhealthy end of the spectrum, there are. Chances are high you have a wall up around your heart. You probably keep it there because you believe that you have an edge in business. That axe that you're grinding in business and you're not sure who you are without it keeps your walls up around your heart and it keeps your partner at a distance. So I'm not going to ask you to change, but I am going to ask you to shift. I'm going to start to ask you to shift towards the healthy end of the spectrum. And you can do that by taking one brick at a time down around your heart. You don't have to go full throttle. I know yesterday we talked about that shift and how dangerous that can feel. If you can do it one brick at a time and shift towards healthy alpha, you're going to start to see your relationship change.