THIS is The Pressure Relief Valve For Taking Back Your Metal and Emotional Health ft. Jenny Locklin

At Genius Network, we talk about optimizing everything: your health, your business, your mindset. We focus on exercise, diet, sleep, meditation, investing wisely, and surrounding ourselves with positive, like-minded entrepreneurs. All essential, all powerful. But there is one more tool that belongs in that list. It costs nothing. It requires no app, no supplement, no retreat. It is available at any moment if you choose it, and it may be one of the greatest lifesavers for your mental and emotional well-being. What is it? A sense of humor, especially about yourself and about what is happening in your life. In the middle of pressure, setbacks, and high expectations, a sense of humor is often the first thing to disappear. Nothing Jenny Lachlan is about to share is brand new. It's a powerful reminder that humor is not a distraction from success. It is a pressure relief valve that makes an ELF—easy, lucrative, and fun—life sustainable. Jenny works alongside her dad, Hall of Fame speaker Joel Weldon, coaching entrepreneurs and executives on how to communicate in ways that are clear, compelling, and impossible to misunderstand. She's also known as the undercover speaker, surprising corporate audiences both in person and virtually with high-energy, unexpected openings that turn into powerful lessons on leadership, resilience, and connection. The title of her talk is Your Pressure Relief Valve for Mental and Emotional Health. Please help me welcome Jenny Locklin. Thank you, dear. ¡Gracias!

Thank you, Joe Polish. We all know a sense of humor is supposed to be good for us, but yet it's the first to disappear when we need it most. You might be thinking, "Well, what's so great about a sense of humor? Like, what are the benefits?" Well, when you have a sense of humor, you handle stress better, your immune system is strengthened, You're— it's an antidepressant. And when you have a sense of humor, you sleep better. And the best benefit, I think, is that when you have a sense of humor, it keeps you looking and feeling young. And if you don't believe me, I have proof. This is an older gentleman that I met at a senior center. Obviously, he's an old guy. We got him having a sense of humor about himself, about his life choices. We just went back last week. Would you like to see what he looks like now? Yes. Yes. Yes. It works. And that sense of humor about yourself, about your life, is exactly like a pressure relief valve on a water heater. It prevents the pressure from building up and causing failure. So just think of that. In your mental and emotional state. That's what a pressure relief valve moment, a sense of humor, does. But you might be thinking, well, I got nothing to laugh about, Jenny. I'm going through a very difficult time. So I'm gonna give you a variety of ways where you can find just a little sliver, sliver of humor in your life. And one of them being old photos. Look at some old photos of yourself, right? Old fashion choices, hairstyles, that's sometimes enough. This is a photo of my mom. Now, I lost my mom 3 years ago. But my mom had a very interesting sense of fashion. And she made all of us, our family, wear matching outfits. And I don't mean just like for a Christmas card photo. I'm talking all the time. So here's some proof, okay? I'm the little one, then it's my older sister and my parents. When my parents were first married, she made my dad wear matching sweater, matching shirt, matching hat. There was more matching. More matching. Notice the little one isn't quite with the program. I wish I could tell you this next photo was in Maui. No, it wasn't. It was in the backyard of Arizona. Then there was the complimentary State Farm Insurance scarves that we were gifted. And then there was the matching father and daughter haircuts. And just about a year ago at Christmas, I got my husband to wear a matching Christmas tee. T-shirt, and I think my mom would be really proud. And mine says "chest," and his says "nuts." But here's the thing. We all have bad fashion choices. That's why I'm telling you to look back at the photos. This is me at the age of 5. Ignore the sultry look, right? I don't know what's going on with that. But you might be wondering, "Well, how is this possible? What's going on here? Were you an early bloomer?" No, I was not. So you might remember, if you're old enough, pantyhose were sold in what was called these legs, eggs. It was a plastic egg container. It was a round end and then an oval end. And apparently, I took two rounds and put them here. And then I hot glue gunned marbles. So ladies, if you are not liking the way yours look, this is a very affordable option.

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All right, maybe you're saying, well, what do I do? I don't have old photos. What am I gonna do? Here's another option. What about accepting the things that you cannot change? This one is a little bit more difficult. So what are things that you cannot change? You can't change the way your baby or your grandbaby looks, right? Anyone have an ugly grandkid? Right? It's not easy. How about— how about the way your dog looks like your grandbaby? How about the way the trees grow in your neighborhood? Right, you can't control this. Now something about me that I don't like that I have to accept is I am so short. And I don't know what it is about short girls, but they're always friends with the tall girls, right? I know Britney and Randy, haha, so funny. No, it's not, okay? You get— we get the photo back and this is what the selfie looks like. Yeah, wow. I have a really tall friend, Terry, and every time I hug my tall friend Terry, this is what happens. Jenny! Hey! How are you? What is going on? I know, I know, I know. Most of the men in here are wishing they were 5 feet tall. I know, I know. So can you laugh at the things that you don't like about yourself that you cannot change? It doesn't change that I'm short, but it does help the way I feel about it. OK? And that is what we call just a little pressure relief valve moment. Now, if you still feel like I have nothing to laugh about, I've been through some tough times, made a lot of mistakes, I'm going to recommend— ooh, that's a perfect place to go— mistakes. The fastest way to build a sense of humor about yourself is to be able to laugh at your mistakes. And how you can do that— I created this idea called a mistake break. You could do this with your team. You could do this with your family. You can do it on virtual. You can do it in person. 'Cause if you can laugh at your mistakes, you can laugh at anything. But sometimes it's not easy, right? We're so hard on ourselves. So what you do is you can share a personal or professional mistake, and you're gonna find that people will either say, "Oh my gosh, I've done that same mistake," or, "I could see myself doing that," or they will laugh at your mistake, and that will help you give yourself a little grace. And it will help you get over it. And the key here with this mistake break is you go first. You as a leader, you share a mistake first. And that is another example of a little pressure relief valve moment. Now if you're thinking, well, I don't know, I'm going through a pretty heavy time— remember I showed you the picture of my mom who I lost 3 years ago. My mom had dementia. And if you have anyone in your life that has dementia or you've had someone, you know that it is heartbreaking. It's very heartbreaking. And my mom went from this vibrant, happy, capable woman that I so connected with to somebody who there was no connection. And every Saturday I would drive to her house and take care of her, spend time with her. And I would just be bawling my eyes out until one day I remembered Snapchat. Snapchat, the social media app most of young people are on. Now, what you might not know about this if you don't know the app is it has all these funny filters. You can hold up and take selfies, and they're so fun. You can do this with kids, your family. And I thought, "Oh, I wonder if I should try that with my mom." And all of a sudden, there was a smile. There was a little giggle. There was— we got ugly together. We gained weight together. And every time I would go to see her, I'd say, "Hey, Mom, you want to take a new selfie?" And there was just a sliver of humor. You can do this with your loved ones. It's so fun. And it was a pressure relief valve moment for, I think, for both her and for me. It didn't change the dementia. But it did change the way I felt about it. I was supposed to give this talk 2 months ago, but I postponed it because I had to get some skin cancer removed from the front of my face, and I was so self-conscious. And I'm gonna show you the picture. I look like a monster. I was feeling so sorry for myself, and I remembered at that moment I had to do some banking, so I picked up my phone to— log in. I had to hold up the phone to my face, and this is the message I got. And I did exactly what you just did, and I was so grateful for that pressure relief valve moment. It didn't take the face away, but it helped me change my feelings about it. So the next time life feels heavy, don't be surprised if you find yourself Having a sliver of humor, because when you do, that is a pressure relief valve moment. Okay, I hope you found that video awesome and useful.

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