You're Overcomplicating Things

Taste yo, yo, yo, I can taste yo, yo, yo, I can taste yo, yo, yo, I can taste yo, yo, yo, yo, I can taste yo, yo, yo, I can taste hello and good evening, everyone. I'm Katie McManus, business strategist and money mindset coach, coming to you live on the Facebook's LinkedIn, YouTube and Instagram, and hello, the Gazelle and GWG2GN. I forgot. I forget your first name, but, yeah, I hate it when. I hate it when I know the username, but I don't remember the actual human name behind it. It's one of the beautiful things about LinkedIn is that, like, the name is the name is the name. Anyway, welcome. Happy Wednesday. I wanted to talk today a little bit about how we tend to overcomplicate things. Oh, yes, James, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. Good to see you here. Anyway, I appreciate you so much for that. So we tend to overcomplicate things in our whole lives, and if you have adhd, it is even worse. And I'll just use an example of, like, creating healthy habits, right? You know, a normal, like, mentally well person would think, cool, I would like to be healthier. I'm going to pick one habit that I'm going to, you know, adapt and, like, try to do every single day. Maybe it's drinking plenty of water. That's just going to be my thing that I'm going to do for, like, the next month or the next two months and build that habit, and then I'm going to move on to the next thing, and I'm just going to call myself out on some bullshit right now, because that's not how ADHD people do things. We're like, you know what? No, I'm going to change all aspects of my life, and I'm going to hold myself accountable to doing it every single fucking day, which we all know is not the best way to change any habits. It's the best way to set expectations high for yourself and then fail. Okay? We do this in our lives, and then we do this in our businesses. And oftentimes when clients come to me and they're really, really, really frustrated that they're not getting the results. And they're also very aware that they're being inconsistent in doing the work we dig in. And the thing that is holding them back, the thing that is like, stopping them in their tracks, making them unable to take action and move forward, is that they're overcomplicating things. So oftentimes they know what to do. I've taught them what to do, right? But once they learn what to do, they're like, oh, well, I know how to do it now. I'm going to do it the best way possible. And so they go out and they seek out kind of like guidelines for how they can do it. Like this person and this person, this person, this person. They get feedback from this corner and they read this book and they read that book and they try to take all of this information and they try to squeeze it into the little framework that they have to do the thing. And then all of a sudden, something that is really simple and fairly straightforward on how to do becomes this 27 point checklist of all these different things that they have to cover while they're doing this one thing. And so creating content is one of these things, okay? There's so many schools of thought when it comes to creating content. And really, I mean, some are more effective than others. And if you try to combine all of them, you know what's going to happen? None of it's going to work because you're trying to make your content do too much at the same time. All right? And where this comes from ultimately, is there is this saboteur, this voice of doubt in your head that's really convincing. I mean, it's just as smart as you are, right? And if you're watching me, you're probably pretty smart, right? And it convinces you that you can do this perfect, right? And we all know. We all know. Come on. Like, realistically, we know that perfection is a myth. There's no such thing as perfect, okay? There are some people who don't think Taylor Swift is the most beautiful person in the world. There are some people who don't, for some reason, don't like Beyonce's singing, okay? There are some people who don't. Don't enjoy watermelon. Like, watermelon is one of the most perfect fruits in the world. You can't tell me different, all right? There's no such thing to be perfect in everyone's eyes. It's just. It's not possible. It's not even possible to be perfect in your own eyes. Have you ever done something like anything and been like, I did that perfectly? Absolutely perfectly. There was nothing that you could critique in your own performance in it. Absolutely not. Absolutely not. You could probably give yourself credit for doing it really well, right? But there's always that voice of doubt, like, well, you could do it better. You could do it better here and you could do it better there. If. If we were Only able to be successful. If we were perfect, no one would have accomplished anything. We would have died. We would have died out like millennia ago. Okay? That's not how humans operate. We do things shitty and we survive, and then we do things shitty again, and then we survive, and then we do things a little less shitty the next time around, and then we still survive, right? If we have existed like that as a species for millennia, what makes you think you can be any different? Right? What makes you think you have to be any different? Seriously, you know, you can do things really well and also like 50% of good. Still pretty good, right? And, you know, I had this client who's now a business partner of mine, David Fryman. And I remember he said, you know, doing it imperfectly is better than not doing it perfectly, right? Because what happens when we hold ourselves to that standard of perfection? We just don't do it. We don't start it. Like, it becomes this overwhelming, terrifying task that we're. We're so sure that we're gonna up because of course we're gonna it up, right? If the only way to win is to do it perfectly, then obviously there's no winning, right? So there's the show that I. I love. It's called Parks and Rec, Parks and Recreation, Amy Poehler. And there's this character who I so connect with, Ron Swanson. And he is this grumpy, grumpy, like, head of the Parks and Rec department. He's super grouchy. And his saying is, I never half ass anything. I always use my full ass. And this is really the one thing that I disagree with him on, okay? I'm sorry, Ron. I just. I can't stick with you on this one, okay? Because I would far prefer you to half ass something and get it out there and just do it than to wait around until you can completely, perfectly full asset. Hell, I would prefer you to quarter asset or 8th asset or 16th asset. Like. Like do. Do just like the tiniest little bit of it and put it out there into the world and do it like the worst way possible. And I will bet you good money that even if you do it shitty, it will still have impact. It will still work for your business. It will still remind people that you exist. It'll still tell people how you're useful to them. It will do a job. It will. It will get you out there. And if nothing else, 16th asking it will show you that you can put something out there, even if it's bad, and not die, which trains your nervous system that it's okay to do things shitty. And so the next time you're gonna have a little more skin in the game, you're gonna be a little more prepared. So you might eighth asset. And you're gonna put that little eighth of your ass out into the world, and then you're gonna be really, really nervous. Then you're gonna be like, oh, my God, I'm good. I'm still here. Oh, okay. Didn't die. Didn't die that time. Awesome. And then your nervous system is going to start programming. Okay, cool. We can put an eighth of ourselves out there or an eighth of our booty out there, and we will not die. And then you're going to do it with a fourth, and then you're going to do it with half. And then, you know, you might get up to a full ass. I don't know. I haven't done it yet, so I can't tell you. But the point is that you have to put yourself out there. The point is, is that if you keep choosing overwhelm, overtaking action, you're never going to take action. And if you don't take action, there's no way for you to get business. And if you don't get business, then you do not have a business. You have, you know, kind of a partially subsidized hobby that you might be making a little money from, but, like, you probably want to be making more from, right? So here's my battle cry for you right now. Do it shitty, okay? Do it shitty. Do it like the bare bones. Like, don't try to be perfect, okay? Because guess what? You're not and you never will be. And there's nothing you'll put out into the world that will ever be perfect. Some of my absolute favorite books, I can critique the out of them. Okay. I don't know if anyone's in the mass verse, so. Sarah J. Maas, I love her stories. I love her novels. Her dialogue sucks. Her dialogue. I'm sorry if you're a Sarah J. Maas fan, but literally, like, no character has a defined voice. It's all the same voice. And the other thing that I will say is, like, she's not good at, like, traveling, right? So it's a lot of, like, traveling head. So all of a sudden, like, you know, two characters are flying through, through the skies and they're having this whole conversation. Then all of a sudden they're in the living room and you have to go back and you have to be like, well, wait a minute, when did they Land. When did they walk in through the door? When did they get to the living room? It just doesn't make sense. Let me see. James, my sister thinks I have adhd. I disagree. What are a couple of the telling signs? Oh, God. I mean, there are a few different flavors of adhd. There's, like, inattentive, there's hyperactive. I mean, the main. The main theme that I think a lot of people with ADHD have is, like, you feel like. So everyone. I mean, most people have an internal monologue. Not everyone. Some people genuinely don't have internal. An internal monologue. When you say to an ADHD person, like, you know, your internal monologue, like that voice that narrates everything, an ADHD person would be like, voice, voices. What do you mean? It's like. It's like a group of just people chattering around, and they all have different opinions. They all are arguing all the time about what you should be focusing on. Another big sign of ADHD is when you have executive dysfunction. And it's basically when you know exactly what you need to do, right? So, like, maybe you want to clean your office, which I desperately need to do. And you know that you need to do it, and you really want to do it, and you know how good it's going to feel when it's done and you have the time to do it, and you sit here and you just ruminate on, I want to do it, I want to do it, I need to do it, I should be doing it. Why aren't I doing it? Blah, blah, blah. And you literally cannot get yourself to get up out of your chair and go and do it, okay? You have a dopamine deficit. You literally, like, that part of your brain that controls your executive function doesn't have enough dopamine to, like, get you up and jumped up and go and do it. Everyone. You know, I never actually connected with the diagnosis of ADHD when I was a kid and growing up, because the diagnostic definition of ADHD isn't about our experience of it, okay? It's not about, like, how we experience the world. It's how other people experience us. It's how other, period. Other people experience us as the problem, how we don't fit in with them, right? How we're problematic. And that's not helpful to someone who actually has adhd, right? So if. If you're not connecting with the definition, then great. Also, like, you know, your sister may be wrong, you know, but also, there's nothing wrong with having adhd. It's just that Your brain works a little differently. And I will tell you it. If you go and get a proper diagnosis. I can't give it to you. I'm not trained in that. But if you go and get a proper diagnosis, like, once you have that and you're able to understand how your brain functions differently and how you operate differently, it makes life so much easier because instead of punishing yourself for not fitting in and not being able to do things the way that everyone else says that it's easily done. You can design things the way that work for you. Let me see. Michael. I'm working on a business to heal that. Heal. I don't know. I've covered a lot. Heal the executive dysfunction. I'm not sure if you could tell me more, then I'd be very interested. But anyway, yes, that those are a couple signs that you have adhd. Thank you for asking that. But yeah. You're over complicating things, all of you. I am. I, I, I am. I do it all the time. I over complicate. I mean, hell, I just showed you my little habit tracker that even though I coach people on this stuff, I still made this. I still made Michael. Oh, yeah, you're helping people with executive dysfunction. That's fabulous. Yeah. You know, there's a lot of new therapies coming out to help people with executive dysfunction, and I'm here for it. I think it's one of the most frustrating parts of having adhd. And it actually, I think, is one of the things that actually leads to a lot of depression and anxiety, actually. I know it is because, you know, you're told that you can do these things and you should be able to do these things, and then you can. You start thinking there's something wrong with you, and then you fall behind on stuff and it's just a very punishing cycle. So more power to you. Anyway, I. Yeah, I just want to leave you with this final bit. Stop being weenie and do things shitty. Okay? That's it. That's it. If you can do that in all matters of life, you're golden. Seriously. Seriously. If you, if you plan a shitty date with your, with your spouse instead of no date at all, that's still better than no date at all. All right? If you, you know, make a shitty cake for your kids for their birthday, that's better than no cake for them. You know, if you do a report for work and you do it shitty, it's better than no report for work. Right? Hi, Sharon. Hi, David. Welcome. I just graduated law School had to learn things through a fire hose. Yeah. Or I think you're saying fire hose, maybe firehouse. I don't. I didn't. There's so many jokes I can make with that. But yeah, fire hose. Yeah, there's. Yeah, it's funny. People with adhd, people think that, like, they don't have the ability to go and get advanced degrees and like. No, if we have a hyper focus, if we are passionate and interested in something, like, we can learn absolutely everything about it. Right. I think that's one of the reasons that I love my work. And I'm. I'm like, so invested in it. And I can work with so many different industries from like, from legal to copywriting to consulting to coaching, because my brain, because I'm so hyper interested in how business works for these types of businesses, I'm constantly scanning the world for more stuff that can be useful to my clients. And I, I can't help it. It's literally a compulsion. It's just my brain naturally scans the world for that. Let me see. Sharon, thanks for validating my shit approach. Yeah, anytime. Yeah, it's. I. I fully endorse shit approaches. I think they're the best. I think they're. They're better than no approach at all. Right. The only, the only thing that I will say is maybe don't do the shitty approach, like with flying a plane or jumping out of a plane or things that, you know, could result in you unaliving. Maybe trust some experts to help you along the way. All right. That is just my caveat for the evening. Anyway, I want to thank Michael and James and Sharon and David and GWD2GN, whose first name I still don't remember. Oh, yeah, Sharon, also during surgeries. Yes. We don't want to do a shitty job doing surgeries on other human beings. Thank you. Yes. Thankfully, I will never be in a position to do that. Anyway, I want to thank you all for being here. I hope this is useful. And I cannot wait to see what kind of you put into the world next. Anyway, I'm Katie McManus, business strategist and money mindset coach. I cannot wait to go live with you tomorrow. Today's Day 19 of me going live 30 days in a row. So if you have any ideas or any topics that you want me to go live on in the next 11 days, I could use some ideas, so please pop them into my DMs. I so appreciate you in advance and. Oh, thank you, Michael. Yeah, lucky. Luckily, coaching isn't brain surgery or rocket science. Yes, thank. Thank God. Thank God for that. Anyway, have an amazing James I figured out I'm more of a visual learner as opposed to reading. Yeah, I mean, that's actually really common with people who are neurodivergent for sure. That's why IKEA works so well for us, honestly. Anyway, I hope you have an amazing night and I will see you all tomorrow by.