Lewis HowesYour Personal 24/7 Greatness Coach

Are you attracting relationships from WOUNDS?

31 Mar 2026 · 1 min

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This content was created by Lewis Howes. This content was uploaded by Lewis Howes. This is a YouTube video titled "Are you attracting relationships from WOUNDS?" (recorded 2026-03-31). It contains an English conversational excerpt featuring Lewis Howes and another speaker discussing relationship dynamics—specifically how people attract partners with similar psychological wounds, sensing similar stress/nervous-system states (vs. literal smell), and how inner-child/shadow work affects growth and drifting apart when one person heals and the other does not.

You meet people on the same level of psychological wound as you. Oh, yeah. You also leave people where if you evolve out of that and they haven't been able to. Wow.
Which I think goes back to one of the things that, one of the pieces of content I heard you talk about, which is like the sense of smell connecting to someone's stress levels or anxiety levels. Like you'll kind of attract a similar nervous system or I guess a certain similar, like I don't know, stress level? Yeah, it's not smell.
It's sensing, not through smell, the level of the stress hormone. Yeah. Interesting. But that's short-term, right? But the inner child and shadow stuff is longer-term.
Gosh, that's fascinating.
Yeah.
So you think we attract people based on our psychological wounds?
100%.
Wow. And as we start to heal and grow, if the other person's not healing and growing, we kind of pull away.
Wow.