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Ask SCARY Questions in Relationships | Jillian Turecki

13 Jan 2025 · 0 min

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In this conversational segment, Jillian Turecki and a co‑speaker discuss the necessity of confronting uncomfortable topics within romantic partnerships. They stress that to keep a relationship worthwhile, partners must be willing to "rock the boat" by asking the questions that scare them and truly listening to the answers. Turecki shares observations from her work with long‑term couples who avoided honest dialogue to protect each other's feelings, resulting in stagnation. When those couples finally embraced vulnerable, truthful conversations, they experienced significant healing and growth. The dialogue underscores that risking the loss of a relationship—rather than applying a superficial "Band‑Aid"—can be essential for authentic connection and long‑term health.

You have to be willing to rock the boat.
You have to be willing to ask.
The questions that scare you and listen to the answers.
That scare you even more because for a relationship to be.
Worth keeping, you have to risk losing it sometimes. Like sometimes it gets to that point where it's like, I have to risk.
This not working.
Out because if I.
Don'T, then I'm just staying in something and putting a Band-Aid over it.
But I've worked with many couples where They were married for years and they.
Just weren't telling the truth again.
They didn't.
Want to hurt the other person's feelings. It was too vulnerable. They didn't.
Know how to have these conversations. And once they started really telling the truth to each other, that's when they.
Were able to heal.