George Kamel says couples should ask three questions before marriage: what are your views on debt and wealth building, how do you approach spending versus earning, and what role did money play in your upbringing. These reveal financial philosophies that predict compatibility, since money conflicts are the leading cause of divorce.
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What do you think is the three biggest questions everyone should ask before they get married? I think one of the best questions to ask is not about, you know, you don't want to ask about, Hey, how much debt do you have on the first date? What's your income? What's your life plan? What you want to ask is, what are your views around debt? Just what are your values when it comes to building wealth? That, to me, says a whole lot more about a person than their current status. And so I'm never going to be like, you better find someone who's debt free, who's a millionaire, you know. It's not about that. It's about where are they trying to go? Because if they're trying to hang on to debt and they're going to continue to spend more than they make, probably not someone I want to be with long term. We see that one of the number one causes of divorce in America today is money fights and money problems. And so if you can avoid that on the front end, which I think you can by asking some good questions like, what are your values around money? Um, what was it like growing up in your house? Was money talked about? I think that's a really interesting question because it says a lot about how you think about money and your paradigm around money.
