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Ask THESE Money Questions BEFORE Marriage! | Scott Donnell

6 Sept 2024 · 1 min

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In this segment of the Lewis Howes podcast, host Lewis Howes and guest Scott Donnell discuss the crucial financial questions couples should ask before marriage to foster harmony and avoid conflict. They emphasize probing a partner’s upbringing around money—whether they grew up with abundance, scarcity, entitlement, or value‑creation mindsets—and how those early experiences shape current attitudes. The conversation highlights the clash between generous, abundance‑oriented individuals and partners who are “scarcity hoarders” or insecure about money, noting that such mismatches are among the top causes of divorce. The dialogue serves as a guide for listeners to identify and address potential financial incompatibilities early in a relationship.

What are three money questions you should ask the person you're dating and potentially going to get married to before you get married to do your best to set yourself up for harmony and financial peace in the marriage.
So the question is, how did you grow up around money? And what does money mean to your family? What did it mean to you growing up? You're going to hear a lot. You're going to know if it was silver spoon or if it was hard knock.
Right.
You're going to hear if it was entitlement or if it was value creation or if it was scarcity. Right. Those things manifest themselves all throughout marriages and relationships and often we find opposites.
And if someone is an abundance, the.
Hoarder finds the same.
Yeah. What happens when you're an abundance, generous person, value creation, individual, and you somehow attracted a person who is.
Scarcity hoarder.
Insecure hoarder.
They went from frugal to cheap.
Yeah, exactly.
It can be one of the biggest fights. It is one of the number one causes of divorce.
Wow.