This content was created by Lewis Howes. This content was uploaded by Lewis Howes. This is a YouTube video titled "Beauty fades. THIS lasts forever!" created on September 3, 2025. It features a discussion among multiple speakers about the societal perceptions of beauty and the importance of developing deeper, lasting qualities beyond physical appearance. The conversation explores themes of self-worth, relationships, and the pitfalls of valuing superficial attributes.
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What I find a little bit strange about being online is I'll get a lot of comments about my makeup and my appearance or whatever it is, which is very, very nice. But I didn't understand why that would even be part of the conversation. And I would imagine it's because they assume that if you have a certain appearance, why would you even bother working on your education? Because they almost see it as binary. If you've got one, you don't need the other, but you absolutely need the other. You absolutely. Because it's the only thing that will exist forever.
Your looks is the only depreciating asset you have.
Wow.
So why would you want to derive your value from it and your self esteem from it? We know it's depreciating because what happens.
When the looks start to fade in women who've only put their value in their physical appearance? What happens?
Well, what happens is they end up with men who are equally shallow. Here's the thing, if I'm just a pretty face, I'm going to end up.
With a man who only likes pretty faces.
And now the reality is that man is so easily distracted with the next.
Pretty face and the next 25 year.
Old and the next. So what will happen is you're in a constant competition with people you can't compete with for the rest of your life. And similarly, if I was somebody who just sold sex and just I'm going to find a man who's addicted to sex and men that are addicted to sex will always want novelty. You'll never be enough. So reality is when you create your identity on something so fragile, you attract somebody who's also very fragile.
And then you end up in a lonely cycle, unfortunately.
Whereas when you develop something deep, you attract someone deeper and your connection tends to be more long lasting. God willing, it tends to be more long lasting.
Right. I think I heard you share recently online something about like financial connection and emotional connection.
Yeah.
Can you explain more about that?
Yeah, I think what's happening, unfortunately, men are being indoctrinated into thinking that as long as you provide financially, you can get the hottest girl in the world. And as a result you, you're a high value man and you, you've made it. But essentially when you lead with finances.
You attract a woman who's emotionally detached.
Because emotionally present women, finances does not compensate for lack of quality time. No matter how rich a man is, she wants quality time. Whereas emotionally detached women, they don't care if you're gone for six months on a business trip as long as they've got a bag and a house and a Rolls Royce and whatever it is. And so when you're that man, you're going to attract that woman. So you think, I'm providing her with everything. She's not going to go anywhere. She's thinking, you provided me with everything, now I can go somewhere.
Wow.
So you're actually you. You've lured yourself into a false sense of security. A lot of really successful men will look at a woman, think, I've given her everything. She's not going to go anywhere. She. Because she's got external, kind of extrinsic value. She's saying, I've now got everything from this guy. Where do I go next?
So what more can I get? What more can I get from somewhere else?
