Creating Healthy Boundaries | Dr. Nicole LaPera

A running theme in my family was when there was distance in especially contact, because there was so much health trauma that happened. Health, you know, concerns and worry and anxiety. The immediate belief or worry would be when someone was out of contact for an unpredictable amount of time. It must be because something terrible happened. Interesting. Are they in the hospital? Are they sick? Is something wrong? So there was a history of fear. History of fear, which would create this hypervigilant monitoring of contact. When I didn't call, for instance, on the regular, you know, weekly phone call, it was, you know, is everything okay? Just tell me everything is okay. And I would call at a very particular time frame, up until this period of time where I was like, wait a minute, you're only doing that, right? To placate this kind of anxiety cycle. You don't actually want to be calling in those moments. Yes, I wanted contact with my family, but I didn't need to have regular contact every three days to tell them that I was alive.