Don't Get STUCK In a Trauma Bond...

Trauma bonding is not what gets people into relationships, it's what gets them stuck. So a person might be drawn, for example, in a narcissistic relationship to the charm, the charisma, the confidence, the attractiveness, the smoothness, the whole thing, the whole package and say, whoa, wow, you know, I want to meet them and you meet them and they're every bit as charming as they were across the room. That's attraction. When you're three months in and this person's gaslighting you and manipulating you and doing shady stuff and invalidating you, and you're making excuses for that. That's trauma bonding. So someplace between attraction and trauma bonding is a process. And that's the process we'd love to be able to short circuit. But the problem is most of that process is something we call love bombing. No, and it just like brings you into the relationship and makes you feel like you're thinking about them all the time. Yeah. How do you pull someone out of a fairy tale? It's not easy.