Don't Have SEX on The First Date...

The connective tissue of a long term committed relationship is respect, compassion, safety, a growth, orientation, attunement. That's it. That's safety in a relationship. And getting to that, like ensuring that you almost have those active ingredients, because sex is such an emotionally laden space for people, that muddies the waters, it leaves both people sometimes even sort of confused. What is this about? What are we doing? Yeah, right. What are we doing? And if you have sex with a narcissist on the first date, forget it. What happens? Well, because now what's happen, it is, they have, in a way, they have like power and control and manipulation given them the ultimate supply. Because narcissistic people can be very cruel in relationships, they will actually use that as a tool of punishment and manipulation down the road. How so? Forgive me for using really bad language, but, like, you're a slut. Oh, wow. But a narcissistic person will always weaponize those experiences. So that's why I'm saying, since you don't know the person's a narcissist on the first date, best not have sex with them.