This content was created by Lewis Howes. This content was uploaded by Lewis Howes. This is a YouTube video titled "Even the most SUCCESSFUL people ABANDON themselves!" created on September 22, 2025. It features a conversation between two speakers discussing self-abandonment, judgment, and personal growth, focusing on the importance of self-awareness and not reacting to others' behaviors.
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When did you stop abandoning yourself?
You know, I still do it sometimes. Of course. I mean. Yeah, yeah.
In what ways do you.
Oh God.
Is it in relationships? Is it in self care? Is it in the way you talk to.
Not speaking? You know, sort of not standing my ground in the moment. If somebody says something really crappy, you know, and it doesn't have to be. I'm not. I also don't want to be the personality police. Like if someone's going to say something, but more just not saying anything. Like instead of like brushing it over because it's awkward, just letting it sit there like the big turd it is and let it. Everybody like have a good look at it instead of helping them recover or, you know, just like in the, in the moment is always interesting to me. So slowing. So my mantra for the past five years has been like, slow down and shut up. Like just slow down and shut up. Like I'm, you know, just listen and just choose your words wisely.
You don't have to react to everything.
Exactly. So yeah, for sure.
Personality police.
Yeah. It's not your job to teach everybody how to behave. Let them say what they want. Let them, you know, and this is all part of my whole like not giving a crap what people think of me. It's just like, think what you like, think what you like. It's not my right.
It's almost, it's almost, you know, in a way. And I've done this many times. It's not like I'm saying I'm above or anything, but when we judge another person because they didn't do it the way we liked it, or they think they should do it or it's appropriate in the setting. We are being judgmental. We are being judgmental. We're not accepting. I'm not saying that's the right or wrong thing to do, but it's just something to notice.
Yeah.
There's a judgment that's happening.
Oh yeah.
And when there's a judgment, there's usually a right and wrong.
Yeah.
And so it's just. Is that serving us in the flow of our peace, our, our happiness, our abundance and being in harmony with the world. And maybe there is a time where we need to step up and create a boundary and say something and say get away from me or whatever it is. But.
But it's really more about. It's the inside job thing where it's none of your business, you know, that's their journey. So that's really, you know, and I don't think we ever get there, I don't think. I think it is human to judge and judge, you know, and it's fun. Come on, let's be out there.
Sure, sure.
But I do think that it's a very worthwhile way to spend your time, like, working that muscle and just getting. Cause it's also more if you don't. If you just leave it to them and let them do it. It's. It's. You're not spinning out on it anymore. You're not focusing on it, which pulls more of it into your radar anyway. Like, if you can just focus on what feels fun and good and true and just, like, let them have it back, right?
