Matthew Hussey explains why healthy relationships don't feel rewarding at first. Like someone quitting drugs can't immediately appreciate a sunset, people leaving unhealthy patterns need time to recalibrate what they value before a good relationship feels good.
What is so amazing about a healthy relationship is not available to you until you come to Value something different. It's like someone who's been used to doing drugs every day. And then the day that you get them to quit drugs, you sit them outside their house in front of a beautiful field and you say, appreciate the sunset. Yeah. For the person who's been doing drugs every day, that's not the day you can appreciate a sunset. You are coming out of all of those feelings that you've been addicted to, you have to orient yourself towards a different goal. And in the beginning, you can't expect the new thing to feel like the old thing.
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