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Her Body Was "Petrified" of Me | Carl Lentz

4 Aug 2024 · 1 min

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In this candid monologue, Carl Lentz recounts the painful experience of being intimate with his wife during the early months of their marriage. He describes how her body would shake uncontrollably, leaving her feeling physically safe yet emotionally terrified, as her brain tried to communicate while her body remained petrified. Lentz reflects on the deep shame and isolation that accompany such trauma, emphasizing that these private struggles are invisible to the public and far more challenging than any external judgment. He frames these moments as a pivotal part of his personal journey and the consequences of navigating a partner’s deep-seated fear during intimacy.

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When I would get close to her for the first two or three months, her body would shake and she wouldn't know. That's hard to deal with. She would feel safe physically with you. Her brain is here. She's trying to talk to me, but her body is shaking. And that's a very, very, very horrible place to put your wife. And that's, you're talking about shame. Yeah, it doesn't feel good. No, those are the tough ones. Those are the hardest moments and nothing to do with public thinking, anything like that. No one sees that. Pales in comparison to trying to hold your wife's hand. and she's, her body's petrified of you. And that's, that was part of that's part of my journey, my consequence. Wow.