Dopamine floods your brain when you achieve a goal, which is why early dates feel so intense. That rush isn't love, which runs on oxytocin and serotonin. Mistaking dopamine for the real thing is why people think they've found "the one" too fast.
If you create a goal and you hit it, you get a shot of dopamine. That is what happens, right? Any kind of beginning, middle and end, if you reach the end, you'll get the dopamine. Like, find food, found it. Oh, it feels good. I lost my keys, found them. Oh my god, it feels so good, right? This is why we often confuse on a first date. We do this like falling in love on the first, you know, on the first date. Not really true. That's not oxytocin and serotonin. That's actually dopamine. Because you think you found the thing you're looking for. So you have a list of things in your head that you want in your relationship. This person seems to have a bunch of them and you have, you know, new relationship energy. All you see is the stuff that you want that's on your perfect stuff. And you're literally like, I think this is the bounty. I think they're the one. I'm like, congratulations. You are getting- you-'re flooded with dopamine on date one. Or date two. And you are not in love. We've all made the mistake. You are not in love. I've made it too many times. Go out a bunch more. Go out a bunch more. You realize, what the f*** was I thinking? And they've said that about me.
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