Hypervigilance is an internal alarm system that rejects safety and constantly scans for danger, often rooted in childhood. It makes people obsessively monitor their partners' emotions and create unfounded suspicions, even in healthy relationships, because calmness feels wrong.
In my case, hypervigilance hates the absence of a threat. Like, it hates safety, hates calmness. But hypervigilance is such a big part of us. How much do you watch your partner's emotions? How much do you watch the emotions of others? How much do you focus on that? In a healthy relationship, we can feel bored, we can build stories in our head that if things are going too good, like, are you cheating on me? Like, all that stuff is really, I think, the inner child who is hypervigilant. Their job is to look for a threat.
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