This content was created by Lewis Howes. This content was uploaded by Lewis Howes. This is a YouTube video titled "How I Went From Dating Men to Marrying HER" created on November 8, 2025. It features a conversation between two speakers discussing one speaker's transition from dating men to marrying a woman, exploring themes of sexual orientation and personal discovery.
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How long were you dating men until you started dating your wife or women?
I was dating men basically from elementary school until I met my wife.
Really?
Yeah. I never thought. There wasn't ever a coming out story. In fact, when I first met Emmy.
This is the story we'll tell you.
I know when I first met Emmy.
How old were you when you started dating her?
My mid-30s. Oh, yeah.
Okay. And so you were dating a man right before that?
Yeah.
Were you ever engaged to a man or married?
I was engaged at one point. I was engaged at one point.
You were engaged to a man?
Yeah. Yeah.
Interesting. So what's. I guess what's the.
I know, I know what's the. What happened?
Sure, tell me what happened. I mean, what happened? Tell me what happened or why? Why go from, you know, dating man after man after man to now being married to a woman?
Well, first of all, I don't know is the true answer, but that's just the truth. There's a term that I'm not thinking of right now that someone's gonna tell us exactly what it is. Don't worry, I know someone will tell this. But it's basically that we're raised in a straight culture, and so we are. You may think you're straight until all of a sudden, Emmy, my wife, walks up and I'm like, what's that? That I feel that I've never felt for another woman before?
Were you attracted to men, though, Before?
I'm still attracted to men. I'm still attracted to men. In fact, I mean, God forbid Emmy and I ever break up. I hope we never do. But I would be very confused about what to do. I would not know whether to date a woman or a man. I wouldn't have any idea what to do.
You're not attracted to other women?
That's not. But that's not necessarily true. Actually, my aperture has opened since being with Emmy. I didn't. Emmy was like a. I did not imagine I would be attracted to a woman. I saw her and something lit up in me and I was like, oh, I remember making out with a chick when I was like 21 years old. But didn't think anything of it. Yeah, yeah. Literally didn't think anything of it. But never in a million years could I have ever guessed.
Really?
Yeah. But I'm very open minded, and so I think my level of openness was like. Was such that I could even explore. Explore.
