Dr. Jame Doty explains how childhood trauma shapes adult relationships. People who grew up with abuse often seek out abusive partners because the familiar dynamic feels like love. Recognizing these hidden patterns is the first step to breaking the cycle.
All of us carry baggage from our childhoods, right? And until you are aware that the baggage you carry has an influence on every decision you make, every relationship you have, you can't change. As an example, I'm sure you've seen situations where individuals repeatedly pick an abusive partner over and over again. I don't understand why this happens to me. because you have created that energy that allows that to happen. And I'm not blaming, I'm just saying that this is truth. So if you never understood as an example that while when I was a kid I had an abusive father and you know he would be mean to me or hurt me, the problem is you know that becomes familiar to you and even though it's painful and hurts you it is something that's associated with a love figure. Interesting.
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