Lewis HowesYour Personal 24/7 Greatness Coach

How to become more magnetic

21 Sept 2026 · 1 min

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In this self‑development video, Lewis Howes (Speaker A) argues that the belief that you are not magnetic or confident creates a self‑fulfilling limitation. He advises listeners to replace that disempowering self‑image with a more empowering identity, even if the ultimate goal (“I’m a super‑attractor”) feels too distant. To bridge the gap, he suggests creating a “bridge identity” – a transitional self‑concept that feels attainable – and then actively gathering evidence that supports this new identity. A practical corollary is to stop excessive self‑monitoring, which stems from a disempowering identity and blocks the perception of opportunities. By adopting a stronger self‑image, collecting proof, and easing self‑scrutiny, individuals can open themselves to more opportunities and become more magnetic.

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first of all, need to stop telling yourself that you're not magnetic or that you're not confident or any of that kind of thing. Because when you carry that energy, that does a couple of things. First, it limits what you even put yourself out for. You just decide you don't even see opportunities because you've already pre-decided that that's not for you. Mm-hmm. So that's the first thing really, is to decide that it's just find a more empowering identity. And again, maybe like the, the big I'm a super attractor. Like, that might be too far. Create a bridge. A bridge identity. Yeah, you can absolutely do that and then start to gather proof for that. But then the other sort of more practical thing would be, and this also comes from having a disempowering identity, is to stop monitoring yourself so much.