This content was created by Lewis Howes. This content was uploaded by Lewis Howes. This is a YouTube video titled "How to spot a narcissist!" created on September 18, 2025. It features a discussion among multiple speakers about identifying narcissistic or sociopathic behavior in relationships and the importance of trusting one's instincts and recognizing facial expressions to make safe and healthy decisions.
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How do they really know the difference between a potential narcissist or sociopath or someone who's out of alignment versus someone that could be a healthy, conscious relationship with them?
So, first of all, it's a great question.
And we know in our gut. I mean, I always point to my.
Solar plexus because that's where I feel it.
I feel like this little almost sting right there.
We know in our gut.
And the problem for so many of us, especially those of us who've experienced trauma in our childhoods, is that our pain was intentionally or sometimes not intentionally dismissed. And we have been taught that our emotions aren't real and we can control everything. And really, we have this great security system in our bodies that does exactly what you're talking about, that tells us danger, Danger. Alert, Alert. And what I am trying to do is get this information out into the public so that people who are young are able to make safe and healthy decisions about who to align with romantically, professionally, and even when it comes to friendships.
So if you and I are going.
On a date and say you're somebody who really doesn't wish me well, or.
I'm trying to get something out of you, I don't have good intentions.
You don't care about my feelings, you.
Don'T care about my emotions.
Maybe you're attracted to me, but we're looking for attraction and emotional attachment.
Most of us, most of us who want a real relationship, we want those two things. We want the person to be attracted to us, and we want the person to be emotionally attached to us.
Yeah. Or emotionally committed or.
Yeah, right.
To care about our feelings at the very deepest of levels.
But how do you know? Because there's probably some, either women or men who are, like, going on dates that could act like they care, but they really just want the money or they really just want the sex, or they really just want to use them. In some ways, their benefit.
Right.
So they're saying the right words. And generally for most of us, and.
You know, it varies from person to person, but. But most of us feel something in our gut.
Now what I'm teaching is the facial.
Expressions so that you can see and test and get that instant feedback before you're emotionally attached.
Because most of us six months down.
The line will say about all that creepy boss or the. The relationship where it turns out, you know, she just wanted me for my money or he just wanted me for sex or vice vers that we know.
It, but if we can see the.
Science in it immediately, we're unlikely to attach ourselves. We see the red fl, so what.
