How to Understand Your Partner | Jay Shetty

We don't realize.

That so many of.

The challenges in our relationship are because of our relationship with ourselves and our partner's relationship with themselves. We think I'm doing everything, but they don't feel better. But that's because they're going through something internally. We think I'm giving them everything, I'm doing everything they need, I'm here supporting them.

But if they've got something going on.

Internally, they can't even receive any of that. And so often we look at it.

Through the lens of it's.

Just me and them.

That's just not true.

And so you have to remember that there was a you before, there was a you during, and there's a you after every relationship, and there's a them before, a them during and a them after every relationship. And when you accept and understand that you can actually solve problems easier because now you have three things to look at rather than just one.