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How TV and movies KILL romance

20 Jul 2025 · 1 min

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In this segment of Lewis Howes' YouTube video, the speaker critiques the pervasive romanticism promoted by television, movies, and music, which portrays a partner as simultaneously best friend, lover, and personal psychologist. He argues that this unrealistic ideal creates emotional exhaustion and pressure for couples to fulfill multiple demanding roles. The speaker proposes a more pragmatic mindset: treating love as a transient emotion, applying a mental filter to reduce over‑analysis, and relying on friends for venting and perspective rather than expecting a partner to meet every emotional need. The discussion is framed as a personal observation, inviting listeners to reflect on their own experiences with these media‑driven expectations.

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You know, this is where I said that romanticism really hurts. You know, what we see in TV shows, what we see in movies, what we hear in songs, all this romantic idea that your partner is going to be your best friend but also your lover. Lover but also your psychologist. Can you imagine? It's exhausting to think about and yet this is the picture we're being sold about love, in my opinion. Wouldn't it be nice sometimes to have a little bit of a filter and say, you know what? This thing is just an emotion. It's going to come and it's going to go. Why would I even bring it up? I have friends, girlfriends that I go, has it ever happened to you? And we vent with each other. Yes, this thing that. And you let it go and then I let it go and then by the time I see you, I don't even have it in my mind. Exactly.