How your childhood impacts your relationships TODAY!

Unfortunately, I really hate to say this because we can't really control this, but your childhood, unfortunately, your childhood creates an embedded kind of conflict between you and love. When we have a chaotic childhood, what we do is we create a core belief about ourselves that we're not worthy of love, we don't deserve love, or love is painful. And because that's our core belief, we go through life looking for somebody to validate that core belief. Now, if I meet somebody loving even, I will still try and create that core belief and make love chaotic. So, oh, I'll sabotage or do something. So unfortunately, you have to look at their childhood. Now, it doesn't mean if they've got a bad childhood, they're written half. But if they haven't acknowledged the impact.

You'Re going to start of the healing process.

You're going to be the punching bag.

Oh, man. Unfortunately, I've been punched a lot.

Have you noticed that as well?

I've been punched a lot in my past.

What kind of things do women bring, like, in their past childhood?

Well, I think, you know, I think it's the responsibility of each partner to, to ask those questions to, to, you know, and I lacked the inability to. I saw that and that was what attracted me because I was wounded in my childhood. Right. So it's like, okay, we're both wounded. We're in this together.

Yeah.

So I was the punching bag and kept, kept sticking around because I lacked the courage, confidence, the, you know, skills, the security in self to walk away from the feeling of love and intimacy, the feeling of connection, the false feeling.

Well, that broken childhood gives women some intensity that makes a man feel really loved in the moment.

Absolutely.

And it's honestly, they give you really passionate kind of sexual relations as well because they almost treat you like you're.

Temporary because they know you're chemistry is explosive. Right. But it doesn't mean it's healthy.

It's not healthy.

I've heard you talk about this. I've talked about this as well. It's like if a person you're meeting feels boring.

Yeah.

Then that's a good thing. It's a good, it's a good thing. If it feels like exciting, explosive and magical every moment. It's like the constant, like that's probably when you want to run or really ask yourself why, why, why are you attracted to chaos? Why am I attracted to this feeling? Is that healthy? I'm not saying it's automatic bad, but it's a definite thing to pay attention to.

Yeah. And is it sustainable to do that to your body is nothing is the same. It's like being in the ring for, like, 10, 15 rounds.

Yeah. It's also like, like you said, you can only have that feeling for so long, and then when it fades, are you saying something's wrong? I need to recreate that feeling. Yeah.

And they usually recreate it by outsourcing chaos outside of the relationship. So they'll have really stable, healthy relationships, but they'll find, you know, a guy on the side or a girl on the side that will recreate the trauma that they've had as a child, unfortunately.

Right.

And the reason why it's such a problem is children suffer. Children are the only ones that will suffer.

When you have kids and you've attracted each other and you've been committed and got stayed together, ye. The kids suffer from your behavior.

Yeah. Always.