Karamo Brown argues "coming out" is outdated. He prefers "letting people in" because it shifts control to the speaker, not the listener. You decide who gets to know your identity, not whether they'll accept it.
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I don't use the term coming out. I think it's antiquated as I don't think that's actually the act. I think we should be inspiring people to understand that the act actually is letting people in. And I think when you change-- Not coming out, not cutting out. Interesting. Letting people in. Because when you come out to someone, you're giving them the power to accept or deny you versus when you're letting someone in, you're saying, this is my choice. I'm empowered to let you in or to tell you that you don't deserve to be in. You need to stay out. It's more of a protection.