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"If They Can't Accept Me at My Worst, They Don't Deserve Me At My Best"

27 Aug 2024 · 1 min

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Two people challenge the popular saying about accepting someone at their worst. They argue that respect goes both ways: you shouldn't use others as emotional punching bags during your low points, and you have a duty to communicate your struggles without crossing their boundaries.

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If they can't accept me at my worst, they don't deserve me at my best. What do you guys think about that?
If you can't respect somebody at your worst, you don't deserve them at your best. And so while you're at your worst, if you totally disrespect that person and totally cross their boundaries, you don't deserve them when they're at their best, or you don't deserve them when you're at your best. So instead of expecting somebody to tolerate your behavior, you also have a duty of care to them. And you should also say, At my worst, I don't want to put them through so much suffering. At my worst, I want to express myself. I understand I'm not going to be perfect, but does it mean I treat them as an emotional punching bag?