Two speakers discuss why women struggle to take up space and set boundaries. They explore the fear of being disliked and the courage it takes to be authentic instead of shrinking yourself down to make others comfortable.
For all the girlies listening, I feel like it is a similar thing with women feeling like we're too much, too emotional, too complex, whatever it is. And I really tried to make myself small and. And it worked because I'm, like 5 foot 2. I'm, like, I'm physically small, and I. And I just need to be the nice girl, and I need to be really polite, and I need to do what people tell me, and then. Then, you know, I'm gonna be accepted and loved and adored, whatever. And it did kind of work for a while, but I felt. I didn't feel like myself because I do have opinions and I do have ideas, and I know what I want. I definitely know what I don't want. And it's so fun to be able to stand in a place of power while also being kind. I think I. I think I thought if you spoke up, you were not kind, but it's just not true. Like, there's a way to do it.
I think the most powerful human in the world is someone who can courageously share their opinions and create boundaries in a kind and conscious way.
100%.
Not screaming and reacting and, like, get away from me. But actually, like, you know, what you just did, like, that doesn't work for me.
Yeah.
And I want to let you know, maybe I'm misinterpreting something, but I need to have distance from you for a while. Or I need to create this boundary. But, like, actually having the courage.
Yeah.
To disappoint someone.
Yes.
And have someone not like you.
Yeah.
In order to create safety within you.
Yeah.
Is one of the hardest things to do.
The courage to be disliked. Like, that is powerful. But guess what? You're actually doing things right if people don't like you. I have found that when I have felt the most aligned, been speaking my truth, like, emanating my inner light, it triggers a lot of people.
Oh, yeah.
A couple of people online that are like, I don't believe her phony. But it doesn't faze me because I know who I am. So actually, if you're pissing people off or people don't like you, you're doing something right. Because there has to be duality to everything. Not everyone's gonna love you. Not everyone's gonna adore you 100%. And actually, it took the pressure off of me. Cause I felt like I had to do that. And I'm like, it's too tiring.
You don't need everyone to like you anymore.
No.
Yeah. And you can just be yourself.
Yeah.
It doesn't mean you wanna, like, try to piss everyone off.
No. And I'm like, please love me. It's a good balance.
That's great.
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