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Marriage Won't Change Anything | Faith Jenkins

19 Jan 2025 · 1 min

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In this monologue, Faith Jenkins argues that marriage does not magically transform a person or eliminate bad habits; the only tangible change may be a new last name and a financial cost. She uses the metaphor of winning a pie‑eating contest to illustrate that marrying someone means gaining more of the same traits, so one must be content with the choice. Jenkins emphasizes that genuine personal change must originate from within, not from external pressure, nagging, or crying. She advises that when choosing a partner, you are dating their current reality and should aim to marry their potential, ensuring those two aspects are aligned.

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Some people think that by getting married, it's going to change something or change a person or things will be different. The only thing a wedding will change is maybe your last name. Weddings will break the bank, but they will not break bad habits. That's true. You can expect when you get married, you've won the pie-eating contest. What is the prize for winning the pie-eating contest? More pie. You won this person. What is the prize? You get more of them. So you better be happy with your choice. Yeah, and you can't change someone. Not because of pressure. Yeah, or nagging or crying or any of those things. It has to be something within. You come from within. Each person has to want to change. You are dating their reality. You want to marry their potential. Those two things should be aligned. Right.