Mike Tyson: “I Wanted to Kill Myself!” The DANGEROUS Reality of Ego (Most People SUFFER in Silence!)

Hey everyone, welcome back to a very special episode of the School of Greatness. What you're about to experience right now is actually an interview I did with the legendary sports icon, Mike Tyson. And he's got a big fight that he's got coming up with Jake Paul. And one of the things that I thought was interesting was revisiting this interview. I actually went on Mike's show.

It was called Hotboxing.

So this is an interview that I went on his show. but like I tend to do in most situations, I turned the interview around and started diving deep in asking him questions about his mindset, about his legacy, about how he's reinvented himself after boxing, business, and all these different things. So I wanted you to dive in deep around the mindset of Mike Tyson, how he thinks, how he started to actually heal some parts of the things in his life that were causing suffering and pain. He talks about transitioning and transforming into a new identity, into a new man. And I'm excited to see what Mike continues to do with his life moving forward. This was actually an interesting test for me. I've never been drunk or high in my life. And the entire time they were smoking marijuana in this kind of contained room. So it was actually an interesting test for me to see if I could be present while this was happening on his show, Hot Boxing. So without further ado, Let's dive into this interview with the one and only Mike Tyson.

What do you understand about the world? What do you understand about it? And what would you say to your 20-year-old self that just is about to win the title?

I was thinking about the world now that I'm one with everything. That we're involved with everything. I'm involved with the, I'm involved with the bugs, I'm involved with the ants, the butterflies, the cats, the dogs. I'm one with everything. The cars, smoke, everything. I'm one with it all.

Hey, everybody. Welcome to another episode of Hot Boxing. I'm Evan Britton.

And I'm Mike Tyson.

Dude, we got a great guest today. We got a guest who I'm a big fan of. I heard this guy on a podcast a couple years ago, I think, and His name's Lewis Howes. Great to have you here, brother.

Thanks for having me, Louie.

Thank you.

What do you call yourself? You're sort of like this new age philosopher. You're a young, great thinker.

I appreciate that.

Are you a brother?

Yes. He's written a book, sorry, let me give you a little more intro. He's written a book, New York Times bestselling author. This book in particular that's on my mind, which is very pertinent to our show, is called the Mask of Masculinity.

Wow.

And I think we got a lot to talk about there.

It was a European, I think it was a not a philosopher, but I think a therapist. And he did the same thing with the mask of sanity. He forgot his name. But it was about everyday people, we were not who we appear to be.

Yeah, we put on masks. We put on this projection to try to fit in or try to make people like us or try to, please people or win people over. And we were just talking about this before that you played in the NFL for a number of years and you had an identity, a mask that you wore to fit in, to be that player, right? To play the role of lineman, big tough guy, whatever it may be. I don't want to be the tough.

Guy, 'cause everybody, I don't care who was the gangster in the mall, they respected a tough guy.

That's it. That was your life growing up.

They respected you 'cause you didn't back down from them. Yeah, I was bullied when I was a kid. And I said, wow, if I was like these guys that were bullying me, nobody would f**k with me.

Right.

And you became the ultimate bully of the world by destroying everyone. And here's the thing, these masks that men wear, they serve a purpose because it helps us get a result in our life. You know, I wore the athlete mask, which was, I will do whatever it takes to win at all costs. I will frickin destroy people on the field. I will train my butt off. I'll hurt myself. I won't sleep. I'll frickin do whatever to get bigger, faster, stronger at all at all costs so that I can achieve my goal. And here's the crazy thing, these masks work because you were in the NFL, you became the ultimate bully and were the greatest fighter of all time. But here's what doesn't work. We are left with this sense of like this prison inside, right? We might achieve success on the outside, but then we are prisoners and we are unfulfilled on the inside and we don't know what inner peace is. So the masks hold us back from inner peace.

And we take that out on my loved ones, the people close to everyone. A family, our children.

Everyone suffers around us when we wear masks. Absolutely.

So, yeah.

So that's why I wrote the book, 'cause I was achieving at every level. I was making millions, I was playing professional football, I was accomplishing things, but I was suffering inside.

I knew if I didn't change, I couldn't have a family. My kids wouldn't respect me. I was just on that verge where my kids were the ones not respecting me no more. Really? One's right there, the clip of it.

Is so fucking frightening. Wow.

How did it feel when they started to not respect you?

I don't know, I felt like dying.

I wanted to kill Really?

Yeah.

I thought by having my children, they didn't respect me. I didn't want to live anymore.

Wow. How old were you then?

39. 39. Wow.

So that was a big wake-up call for you. That was something that- That was pretty big.

Yeah.

So how did you start to shift to get that respect again? Because it was 40 years of conditioning.

It was so hard. It was so hard. You have to be available, you have to come to work, you have to show up, you know, you have to have gratitude.

Do you have a lot of gratitude in your life right now?

Oh, Hunch, I've been beaten in submission, so I have a lot of gratitude, yeah.

Yeah. What was the biggest beatdown you've ever had, whether it be physically or emotionally or spiritually?

I lost my four-year-old daughter. She accidentally killed herself by accident.

Oh man.

She died on a treadmill. She didn't know how to work it and she got hurt. So after that I didn't know what to do. You know, you just didn't know what to do.

How'd you recover from that?

I haven't. I just know in order to make her happy, I have to do good things and be positive.

Yeah.

Wow. Did you ever think positive before that moment or when you were fighting as well? Or was it always negative?

No, it was always about me. It was always about my... everybody else.

Yeah.

You know, I would give people money and stuff, you know, I was capable of being kind to people, nice to people, but it didn't matter. I just wanted what I wanted and that's all that mattered.

Right. Why do you think we care so much about those things, about like what we win or what we get? Why do you think men in general?

Because, listen, this is what happens. Us as little kids, especially boys, what we hear, we think of great men all the time. We think of people that we heard, you hear about that guy, knock that guy out in the corner, what was his name again? We always hear a legend, we hear about Jim Brown, we hear about Bruce Lee, we hear about all these guys. And we want to know, how this bad ass telling me about these guys. I'm scared of this guy telling me about these guys. Yeah. So I want to be like these guys for guys like this could be afraid of me or respect me or something, you know?

And it's ancient. Yeah, it's very ancient. Knights slaying the dragons.

Yeah.

You know, going out on a hunt.

Like Jim Brown, the football player. Yeah, he's a legend. I didn't know he was a football player. From the streets, I thought he was a bad ass kicking in the street. I didn't know he was a football player. I thought he was a bad I had no idea it was a football player till I got older.

Yeah.

That's awesome.

Why do you think you wanted respect was the thing you wanted the most from people?

Because they bullied me all the time. Everybody picked on me.

Why do you think they picked on you?

I don't know. I had nobody to protect me. I know, you know, there's some people in the neighborhood that got very intimidating family. They may have 20 kids in the family.

You're not gonna mess with those guys.

They're very aggressive. Yeah, cousins and their brothers and everything. They're very aggressive. So we don't bother those guys.

Yeah, 'cause they got a family to get behind you.

Yeah.

You had no family to get behind you.

No family like that.

Dang.

What do you think about that, Louis? Why do people... What is the thing about bullying? Is it that we're programmed to gain superiority over others?

I think bullies are very insecure. and they want to feel in power and they're actually powerless. And so they create scenarios to have power over other people to feel like they're in control. You know, they're very insecure. I think we've all bullied at some time, whether it be one person or a group of people or, you know, in a relationship. I think we've all are fault of it because we want to feel a sense of control or power or certainty. and that lack of certainty, you know, when you're 12 years old growing up, you have no certainty. It's like, who am I? What am I doing? You know, we have no certainty.

The fact is, as we talk, really look at this, as we talk, Evan, when you think about it, these few questions, check it out. Who are you?

Yeah.

No one knows when you're 12.

Yeah.

Where have you came from?

Yeah.

What is your purpose? Why are you breathing? Why do you look the way you do?

Yeah.

Who's the first you that, you know, you have to make your existence. The first one, probably a million years ago, 10 million years ago. Who is he? What did he look like? Was he black, was he Asian?

Crazy, right?

We don't even know who the first us was.

Why do you think you're here, Mike?

Excuse me?

Why do you think you're here?

Why do I think I'm here? To understand the world before I die. To be lucky to understand it and be conscious of it before I die.

What would you say to your, 20 year old self that just is about to win the title.

I was thinking about the world now that I'm one with everything. That we're involved with everything. I'm involved with the sh*t. I'm involved with the bugs, I'm involved with the ants, the butterflies, the cats, the dogs. I'm one with everything. The clouds, the sewage, everything. The cars, smoke, everything. I'm one with it all.

What did you think back then?

Excuse me.

What did you think your understanding of the world was when you were 20?

When I was 20.

What was your viewpoint of the world?

I had no viewpoint. Only thing I knew was, these guys were great champions and I wanted to be like them.

Yeah.

It's interesting, I remember when I was a kid, when I was five, I would watch college football with my dad on TV. I would watch Ohio State Buckeyes. I'm from Ohio. Small town in Ohio called Delaware, Ohio. And I would see the All-Americans on TV and my dad would get so excited about the All-American football players at Ohio State. And I was like, because my dad talked about it, that's what I wanted to be. And so my whole life became, how do I become an All-American athlete? And that was the only thing I cared about. And then when it was over, I was like, well, who am I and.

What do I do with my life? Just kind of like when you retired from football, this identity. Everybody's got a Dick Butkus, all those guys had to deal with that. Yeah. Imagine being so immortal on the football field and then that stops. Stops.

And then you live in the past constantly.

You can't help it. How could you not help it? Tell me that, especially in the 50s and stuff when people wasn't elevated on after we done with this, we haven't saved up.

Screwed.

If we didn't save up after the screw, we're in the gutter again. I don't care black, white, Chinese, unless somebody, somebody's such a big fan, they have rich guys, I love them when I play and they gave you a job. That's what happened to a lot of those guys. They became salesmen for the big corporations because guys loved them when they were playing.

But then the glory was over, though, you know?

It's the ultimate endeavor to have to reinvent yourself. Scary. Everyone has to do that.

All the time.

All the time.

Every couple of years, it's almost like you have to reinvent yourself. All the time.

Shedding skins, letting go, transforming your mindset and your thoughts.

Yeah. What was it like for you when you had to reinvent through financially? Because you went, I think you went bankrupt once or twice or, you know, how did you, rebuild and reinvent from a place of, man, I just had everything and now I lost it for whatever reason.

I had everything and next thing you know, I'm 60 million in debt. Now you owe everything. Now you imagine, dude, owe everything now. 60 million.

How'd you get out of that?

Listen, right? For some reason, they thought I was trying to get out, get out to get a deal to get out of this bankruptcy. They thought I was gonna still fight. I had no intention to fight. They said, no, you gotta fight, you gotta get out of this deal, then you're gonna fight. I had a whole bunch of money and suckers. So they kept thinking I was gonna fight and they wouldn't give me deals. And so I just, this way, I just kept paying a little bit at a time, make some money, I kept paying. And then next thing you know, I would owe them money for so long, they would say, hey, you owed us for so long, so we go to decline, you owing us this for so long. So now you don't owe us five million. We're gonna take seven or five million off. And so that's how I was getting down. And so they said, all right, we're gonna take this off, too. And I wind up owing them $2 million and I paid that and it was over, I think.

Done.

Nice.

Wow. Wow, bro.

You haven't paid in seven months. If you don't pay this in seven months, we're gonna take $20 million off or something like this. You never pay them. How could they do that? They supposed to take everything. I was living in Madison. They supposed to took all that.

How did that happen? Interesting.

I was thinking, I said, how did I'm keeping all this? Why did they not come in to take this stuff? Interesting.

Yeah, they never came to take anything. what do you think the mom.

What was the. I had cars and stuff. I couldn't ride them because I couldn't have money to put gas in them. That Rolls-Royce and ride them.

Got no gas. Just sitting there.

Yeah, yeah.

That's so crazy, Mike. Crazy. Was there a moment in your life? Was it maybe the bankruptcy or when your daughter died or when you lost respect with your. Your kids? Was there a moment when, like, things really started to shift in your mind.

To say, okay, I need to figure this stuff out. I need to really. I didn't have the slightest idea. I got involved with this woman who's now my wife, right? And she has kept saying, everything's gonna be all right. We're gonna write a show. We're gonna produce television shows and movies, and this is gonna be over. I'm looking at her, and I'm still strung out on drugs. And I'm looking at her, that's just the news, you know. And next thing you know, we were talking about, we went and saw Chazz Palminteri at the Bronx Tale, but we saw it on stage. It was magnificent. It was so quiet you could hear a mouse on cotton. He was so captivating. You know what I mean? This guy was so captivating. Chaz Palminteri was so captivating. Everybody was so quiet you could hear every, and I said, Baby, I want to do that. Baby, I do that before, like when I go to Europe, people ask me questions and I answer the question, but this time I just want to ask the question. I did it, you know, theatrically, like Mr. Palminteri. And she was writing the script, and we were rehearsing, she was writing the script. We didn't know how we were gonna do it. And then a friend of mine was at the gym where I work at, and a guy was, Don't Mike Tyson work here? And he said, yeah. He said, if you ever see him.

Give him my card.

I wanna do a show with him.

Whoa, brother. Came out of nowhere.

It's the universe manifesting that. Came out the universe a week later. So we called the guy. It took my wife, I think, six weeks to write the show. Wow. Her first show ever, we did the show standing room only, knockout, blast all over the world, knocked the country. We did it on Broadway for three weeks. First show in Vegas? Yeah, on Vegas was knocked everybody. Everybody came in, I was always, so one of Spike Lee's assistants came and saw the show and said, spike, I think we should get into this. And then Spike said, we want to go to Broadway. I was in Poland, he called me. He said, you want to go to Broadway? We went to Broadway. Listen, we went to Broadway, everybody came, all the Broadway shows and actresses and actors came. Stevie Wonder, it's everybody came, all the actors who we did on a Pandere here in California, all the people from the sets came, all the actors and actors, everybody came, was so awesome. I couldn't believe we could ever do something like that, be on that level where they would come watch us do something other than a fight, something I'm not going to get hurt doing. I did that, you know, I said, wow, I'm performing, these guys are coming and they're enjoying it.

I've heard you talk about this a lot, but how did you feel being so honest and vulnerable about your experiences? Was that the first time you had really done that?

I mean... Yeah, kind of. But listen, it was embarrassing at first, but the people knew all this. People that was all they knew, they saw what happened in the paper, they read the paper, they saw what happened, they saw what happened, people complained about on television. So I couldn't, everybody knew what happened. So I had to be very honest. You did the eight mile move.

It was like the end of eight mile. We're just like, here's everything I did. You know, I'm gonna say it all.

Yeah. Yeah. Everybody knew it, but they just never.

Heard me say it.

But they always... That's the only way.

Yeah, everybody knew. It wasn't no secrets. I watched, I didn't watch it live. I wanted to when it was on Broadway, but I remember watching it on HBO or something like that. And my friend saw it and he's like, you have to watch this. He goes, it's one of the greatest performances I've ever seen. And I was like, no freaking way. Mike Tyson doing a one-man show. I was like, there's no way. And I turned this thing on, and I'm not just saying this because you're here. I turned this thing on, and I was like, wow, you're an incredible storyteller and an incredible performer. You know, obviously you were a great performer as an athlete, but you transitioned, and I don't think anyone saw it coming that you had that capacity and capability to captivate an audience. Whether it be live or TV audience. And you did an incredible job, man.

Thank you.

I mean, thank you.

It was inspiring. Listen, Evan, my wife, it was supposed to be a gritty, hardcore show of a hardcore guy that came on hard. It came out like a car. They laughed at my hard, tough guy. Yeah, yeah. You know, I'm talking about not having a father. The people broke her left. So I ran back to the street. I said, Babe, what's going on?

What's happening?

Why they laughing?

Why they laughing? She said, It's called to keep it going. Keep it going.

Keep it going.

Keep it going.

They're laughing. Keep it going. What was the biggest lesson you learned about yourself after that whole experience had finished? That shouldn't be too hard on myself. You know, I should be more appreciative of what they have accomplished from where I've came from.

That's amazing.

Are you usually hard on yourself?

Absolutely.

Why?

I don't know. That's all I've ever known. 'Cause if I made mistakes, I got harshly, you know what I mean, verbally punished. You know, we heard some bad stuff. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You heard some stuff you didn't wanna hear. So you get yourself numbed to that by calling yourself that all the time.

I'm a loser. I suck.

What the f*** are you doing? You stupid, you dumb f***. How could you do that?

Yeah.

What do you say to yourself now? What's the conversation you say to yourself?

Oh, I love myself. I love my kids. And then your kids also, why aren't you very lucky that you have your wife? What would you be without her? Wow.

It's beautiful, man.

It's unbelievable. I mean, if Mike Tyson can transform, you know what I mean? As a, as a, Example of a man who's gone through a lot of trauma.

Life prepares you. Life prepares you for everything. Prepares you for doing 100 years in jail, prepares you for getting ready to go to the electric chair, prepares you for death. You know what I mean? When life is enduring with you, when you're enduring with life and you're making the age limits go into your 50s, your 60s, your age, then you're making it up there, you're prepared. All your friends are no longer around, most of your family members are not around. What the am I doing here? Then we go.

Wow.

You know.

What's the thing that's prepared you the most? What experience that you've gone through do you think has prepared you the most for where you're at now?

Yes, dropping my ego. I think my life would be disastrous if I never took the toad. I took this ancient medicine to toad. Right, and it changed my whole perspective on how I look at life and how I look at people and how I talk to people.

Wow. Do you know about the toad?

No.

Wow, why don't you educate him? That's gonna be very interesting. He's an awesome guy. Thank you.

So you know about ayahuasca?

Of course, yeah, yeah.

So the active ingredient in there is DMT.

Yep.

So the toad from its venom, which they extract and then dry it over a certain period of time. It crystallizes. It contains five Meo DMT, which, from the way I understand it, is DMT with an extra methyl oxy group attached to it, which makes it, like, super steroided. So it's supercharged to your brain. So it crosses the blood-brain barrier faster.

Wow.

And so, you know, it does, you vaporize it and it does very much the same things as DMT, but it's really the top of the pyramid as far as entheogenic substances. And so, you know, people are cured of depression and addiction and, you know, are released of trauma and pain.

Right. Yeah.

And so, Mike, you did it at a very transformational time.

So, a few times. Listen, it's You take this medicine, it's a possibility you may feel like God.

Wow.

And then you may have a small encounter with God and say, oh God, please forgive me. I'm sorry.

Is that what happened for you?

Yeah.

What was the encounter like?

I felt the pain of everybody I ever heard before in my life. Wow.

That sounds pain. That feels, that's fine.

Please, Lord, I'm sorry.

This is crazy. You felt the pain of everyone you hurt.

How many people do you think you've hurt?

Oh, man. Hundreds, thousands, tens of thousands.

It's so amazing that pain that you could feel. It was, I had nobody, it was nothing. I just existed.

Wow.

And now you could just feel everything. You feel and you see, you know what I'm saying? It's like being dead. You're vulnerable as hell. There's no ego, you're afraid of everything. Naked, yeah.

Yeah.

Yes, please don't hurt me. I'm sorry, I'm sorry, please, I'm God, please.

Wow.

You know, you don't even see nobody and you're scared. You just feel, you just gotta see you scared. I'm sorry, please. It's just, I don't understand it and I've never been the same since I did it. Wow. I don't think about hurting people, I don't think about loving people, you just don't want to do that stuff anymore.

Wow.

You know, I've never been the same since that, when they might, Time on life. I'm talking a little fast. My time on life, I thought I seen it all. I thought I'd been everywhere. I think I everybody drink, everybody smoked, everybody did it all. And I realized I don't know nothing and I'm nobody.

Wow.

I don't know anything. I don't know where I came from. I don't know my real name. I mean, somebody named me Mike. I don't know who the I am.

All right.

I'm just here.

Wow.

It's been pretty amazing to be on this ride with Mike, and it's just crazy amount of wisdom and insight that comes from spending time with this guy.

And I always used God as a way to be in. I was never really, I knew of God, but I always, I didn't, I was, it was always, it wasn't bigger than me.

You were the, you were bigger than God.

Yeah.

You were God.

Yeah. Yeah. thick head. And then you realize that you have to get on your knees. You don't know what his name is, but, you know, you have to worship.

Wow.

You know, after taking the toll. Yeah, he is now.

Once you've been humbled a certain amount of times, then you're like, okay, I'm.

Not God anymore, right? Listen, listen. I'll tell you about that. Ego. I tell you, even though you're humble, you stop. He's still there. Don't let him look at the. I might look around, look at the.

Reflections and say, wow, I'm handsome. And then come the egos. Once you take the toll, you know he Yeah. How do you let go of ego? And how do you, what advice would you give to men who are so ego driven? What would you say to them on how to like let it go when they're so attached to it?

Listen, I'm gonna tell you something about the ego. From my experience, my, I'm nothing but a, it's a junk yard cluttered kid, right? But my, I had nothing, I had nothing, this old Italian man gave me an ego, right? And he gave me everything I wanted. The ego gave me everything I ever wanted and more. But it took so much more in return.

What did it take?

Took everything.

Wow.

Took everything. Been in prison, took everything.

Family, love.

Yeah, well you don't care about animals, you're almost an animal.

Wow.

You know? Oh, I don't never want to go there again.

Wow, man.

Why you wanna live like an animal when you can just say, give it up. Hey, I don't wanna do that no more. I love you.

Wow. It's amazing.

Crazy.

It's awesome.

What's the thing, the lesson you have still yet to learn for yourself to get to that next level that you want to be at? Is there a lesson or is there a challenge that you're struggling with, a question inside that still keeps you from more love, more fulfillment, impact? What is that?

Why me? Who the f*** am I? Why do millions of people know me and think of me in nice ways? Why me? Why did I have to meet this guy? He had nothing, he had died broke. But how did he give me the tricks that he had to give me what I want? I mean, you know, why me? How did he know I was the guy for this job?

Wow.

I never had a boxing glove on in my life. I never thought about sports. Never played sports. How did he know I was the guy?

The universe.

Yeah. How did this guy know? That blows me away. I think this guy knows. Crazy.

What do you think the world needs more of right now? What is it missing?

Listen, I don't know. I can't say I know. I can only say love, kindness, passion, patience, you know, among each other. Look at each other as equals, you know? Everyone can't succeed in one particular way. We could all put, we could all succeed if we work together in any way.

So true. You know, anyway, no one wins unless we all win.

Exactly. And the conduct of one is the faith of us all. And there's billions of us. All the conduct of one is the faith of us all.

Say that one more time. The conduct of one.

The conduct of one of us is the faith of all of us.

What does that mean for you? Huh? What does that mean to you?

That we all have to be in sync with one another. One guy robbed a store and murdered some people, that's the fate of all of us. One guy killed a guy because he's a different color, a different religion, that's the fate of all of us.

Some powerful.

He always this, this, yeah. Insightful?

Yeah. He is, man. I mean, and that's just really, To me, why I think I've connected with Mike so much is through my career in the NFL and coming out of it, this dissolution of ego that's taken place for me over the last four and a half years. Ego is just, it crushes you really at the end of the day. Because that's the thing that ties you into all of your desires and ideas about who you are and what you're supposed to be in this manufactured realm.

And it chases everybody that loves you away.

Exactly.

You only have motherf*kers around you.

It's never enough.

The ego can never have nobody you love around you. It won't work.

Why is that?

If somebody loves you and your ego's acting up and is controlling you, you can't have it.

You push them away.

You slammed them away.

They can't- no matter how much they try to love you, you're just like-.

I can't do it. I can't do it.

It won't work. Because you're never satisfied. You're never filled. That hole is never full, you know? Not enough women, not enough cars, not enough money, not enough accomplishments, press, not enough consumption. There's not enough to just consume and feed that thing. Feed that beast.

And that kind of sickness, if you can't have it all, you rather have nothing. Because it's not enough. It's not all of it. I'd rather have nothing.

Is that what happened to you?

I'd rather have nothing. I can't have everyone, every girl, every drug, every day, every movie store. If I can't have them, every one of them, all of them, I'd rather have nothing. Really?

Yeah.

How many women do you think you've been with?

I don't know. Not. I'm not proud of it, though. Yeah. Yeah. That stuff that I'm proud of.

Yeah.

Because I don't even know why I did it. Yeah.

I didn't know what was the purpose of it.

To try to fulfill something that we were missing. No, it was.

Listen, I wanted those women that love me.

Why?

Because I didn't love myself.

Wow. Did you let them love you?

No way. How can I let myself, I gotta let them love me. My love was to make me, or to tell me I was great, to tell me that was the best you ever had, that was my ego.

Yeah.

You know what I mean? That was my fulfillment. I would pay you about your house or car. I'm the best on earth.

Wow.

Whoo!

What's, how long have you been together with your wife?

10, no, well, more than 10, we've been married 10 years.

What's the greatest lesson she's taught you in the last 10 years?

That I don't own her.

Did you used to feel like you owned the relationship?

I owned everything that was in my presence. Wow. Around me, you're just a work, I own you, mother. You're a fan, you're around me, I own you, mother.

Wow.

And I own you, mother. You're around me, you're in my presence, you want anything, you accept anything from me, I own you.

You owe me, I own you, yeah. So when did she say, you don't own me? What was that like when she confronted you and said, hey, you don't own me?

Listen, let me tell you, have you ever been married?

No, I've never been married.

Let me tell you something, I'm gonna tell you, marriage is something that, it's like a roller coaster, right? And it's really scary 'cause the roller coaster, goes up and it gets to the top and it's making a lot of noise and that's the beginning of making a lot of noise about being in love and then we get to the top and then we come down fast and you can't grow, you can't learn this stuff, you gotta grow with this stuff.

Yeah, you gotta go through it.

You can't get ready for this, you can't prepare for this. You know what I mean? You gotta find out if me and this person really care about each other. Love is out of the question that we're married. Love. Now, how determined you are to make this work for the betterment of your children, your name, God, you know what I mean? How tough are you? Now, you're a tough guy. I want to see how tough you are. You beat up a lot of people. Let's see how tough you are with this.

Wow.

You know what I mean? This is for God. Let's see how tough you did this for money. Let's see what you could do for God.

What's the greatest- what's the thing you love about her the most now?

Right now that she puts up with me. I can't blast the big. Can you believe we're still married?

10 years. Yeah. Wow.

And then I ran into the toad.

Wow.

Oh, man.

Toad life.

Toad life.

Toad life up in here.

Toad life.

Oh, man.

You really have to cultivate a marriage, man.

I've been married.

Yeah.

You're married right now. You got two kids, you said, or one kid? A two-year-old seven-year-old wow.

Once you reach that spot where you understand, hey, we have to watch. We have to take care of ourselves. We have to make sure our side of the street is clean. I can't worry about her side of the street.

I gotta make sure my side of.

The street is clean. That's a key. Give me. That's absolutely. I'm not married. I've never been married, but give me the. The keys to getting into a marriage that's happy and staying in a happy one. Give me your top three each.

I want to hear.

Listen, don't take anything personal. Never personal.

If she says, don't take anything.

How do you not take it personal?

Well, it's wrong.

It takes a lot of practice.

What Not wrong because no, it's triggers.

When they're attacking you.

No, we have triggers from other relationships and other lives. They hit those triggers and we blame them for the trouble that everybody else caused us. 'Cause they pressed those buttons, put that pain back up.

So how do you not take it.

Personally when they're like, you mother... It's a lot of practice. You learn not to take it personally. Yeah.

And you say, and it's time I love you.

It doesn't just happen. You got to disarm them.

Yeah, yeah.

Okay, so always coming back to I love you.

I love you.

I love you. I love you. See, I love you. Remember how much you love them.

Wow.

And remind yourself of it. And for me, it's about taking the energy that I bring into life because we can take our families for granted. Yes. You know, and we fall into just autopilot, you know, programmed mechanisms with our family, especially with an intimate relationship. and so over that time, like what Mike was saying, when that love or that lusty, super hot sex time wears off because it's going to, it will. Because we are, as human beings, we are chemically programmed into that, especially men. You know, you are biologically, evolutionarily programmed to procreate and spread your seed. You know, so this is something that we have to battle. or at least learn how to hone and control.

And this is what I found out too, 'cause you remember I said, it comes a time when you still want to do it no more, and say, I'm just cool, but you still like to do, but it's not like it used to be. That's because God prepares you to, you know what I mean? Sometimes when you're younger, it has to go. And when you get older, it's not that important.

Yes. You don't care as much.

That's why God made it feel good.

Yeah.

'Cause even when you're older now, It's not that point, but it still feels good. I feel like feeling good right now. You know?

So.

You have to come home and you have to create that romance and that love again. You know, you have to remind her.

She would lose it. She would lose it. She would pick something up. You're not, why are you not being this way? You with somebody else this way? Women pick things up, they're very sensitive, pick up things. You have to be consistent. The same thing all the time.

All the time.

Stop one time and then they pick up something. consistency with women. I remember. I learned that late. To be consistent. You have to be consistent. Consistent. Never change your colors. Wow. Because they would pick that up quick.

That's the first thing they pick.

One day you change. One second.

Well, that's why communication. Second, she picks it. And they're different than we are. You see a whole bunch of people in here. If my wife was in here, we're all talking. My wife would remember here. Only my voice. Everybody's talking. She remember everything I said. Everybody's talking, but she's gonna hear my voice. that's how women are. They get, they get tuned into your voice, everything about you, your characteristics. They want to know you. They want to be the Puppet Master. Not, not. They just want to know what is. They don't want to be the puppet master. They just want to know every move you make.

Yeah. Wow.

Yes. And communication.

Yeah.

Communication.

So that's the, that's the third for sure.

Communication. Don't take things personally.

Yeah.

And we're just remember how much you love them.

Yeah.

Listen. Please communicate because something that happened six months ago and you won't know it till the outbursts come out. And you go, what the hell happened? That's six months ago.

What?

Always communicate. Is everything okay, baby? Sure, nothing's on your mind.

You don't want to talk about anything?

Every day, yeah. Oh, I've learnt that late. I started doing that recently, like a year ago.

Yeah, that's pretty new for me.

Wow.

You too. Communication is just, that's a constant practice.

Evan, my whole life, once I've been married, all I did was throw money at my problems. Buy a house, buy your mother a house, buy some cars, you know, get away. I can't deal with no children today. I don't want to hear what the teacher said today.

Yeah.

But that's not what your partner wants from you. They want you to listen and be a partner.

Yes.

Yeah.

They want to know how the money's building. They want to know everything. you know what I mean? And then when you realize you don't have the money like you used to have, and you used to throw those, the money at the problem, you have to deal now. You have to deal with the problem.

Deal with the problem.

That's emotional. I've almost died and deal with the problem. I wish I had something to throw away. I wish I had some money I.

Could give a lawyer to deal with the problem. I definitely confronted that coming out of the NFL. Oh, you know, with my wife, you know, it was like, oh, wow, now I'm here in this marriage. Now we, there's nowhere to go.

That's so awesome. You have all this free time.

Yeah. You're not just at a job all day. You know, absolutely. Remember one day I was in the city, I said, why is it that men and women have to be married? Why is it that we look for a mate? And I tell you, a man needs a woman to make sure that he's a man. Because she'll make sure that we're a man. She'll test us and try us and push us to the extent, to the sear.

Yeah.

Breaking point.

Yeah. You know, yeah, absolutely. By being a man, you have to control yourself. And that's what they teach us. Once you control yourself, you control your feelings with a woman. I don't want to say submit, but she understand I can't get to him. Why don't you control your feelings? Because we don't have the emotional intelligence to control our feelings. Because in our mind, I'm macho man.

We want to react.

Oh, she's making us look like. I said that no man would ever say that to me.

Well, it's about when. It's about when you're confront. When your woman confronts you with something she's challenging. your kingdom. She's challenging your masculinity. She's saying there's something go with for every man. I don't get big, strong biker gang.

Bang a tough killer. And with a woman, you're gonna have to deal with that. A lot of people think a lot of this. I'm gonna get. I'm gonna beat love. I'm gonna get all these. I ain't gonna marry. I ain't getting.

Do you know what? You've met a ton of guys.

Yeah.

Billionaires, celebrity. You've met the biggest. you know, influencers in the world, right? Over the last 30, 40 years. I'm curious, is there a man that you know today or in the past who's maybe passed away who feels so much love in his heart and feels like he made it without having a great partner? Like, can he do it alone and just sleep with a bunch of girls, you know, take what he wants and do these things? Can he be that guy and still be like peaceful and love in his heart or is he unfulfilled?

Dig, right? My experience.

Good question.

My experience, I got it. Did a lot of stuff with women and stuff. I'm not proud of, like, the more women you, you know, you would think the more women you have, the more, more crown and achievements you will receive from people or whatever situation, the player world. But the more women you, the more women you be with, the more it's being. You feel like you've been taking parts away from you.

The hole is getting bigger.

Yeah, it feels like you're dying. The more you, they're taking from you, you feel like you're being taken, you're being torn apart, you're feeling empty, you're feeling dark, you feel like you just don't feel good about yourself.

Wow.

You just, you, all these people, you got nothing from them but a.

You.

Know, and what did you get from that feeling? Why did you want to have that? What was the cause of having that feeling? Nobody had no, you know, maybe three people had babies, but it was come to be in it. What was the purpose of that field? I don't feel that way no more. I don't move like that no more. I said, what was the purpose for me to be that way? What did I get out of it? No one got any babies. We got some diseases. We. You know what I mean? Nobody got any love from that. And was that perceived as love? What was that? I tell my wife, what's that all about? You think I would meet all these people in the afterlife and stuff? What's the afterlife? What about the people that watch me fight? Would I ever see them again? All of them? Collectively, if all this stuff go back, where do you all go?

What.

You'Re thinking right now, what am I talking about? That feeling, that energy, where does that go when we die? Like you're not even talking, but that you're talking to you hear, yeah, where does that go when we die? That can't die. Where does it go? I'm just thinking, does that just black out? Like you pull out a plug socket, what happens with that?

It goes back into The circulation.

But imagine if they go into a bug or a rock or a tree and we become that.

Yeah.

I'm not sure how reincarnation works. You know? Do you come back as another human being? What, you know, and why, what person you come back as?

I was telling my wife, my wife hates bugs.

Yeah.

Every now and then a bug gets in the house and she freaks out, right? I said, listen. that's probably your grandmother coming back and reincarnation. She wants to see you so bad. As soon as you come back, water.

Wow.

You know, I think these are the people that we.

Absolutely.

And we see them and we hate them so bad. And they say, Mike, look at me. But they said, so I'm back. I thought I was dead. Hey, Mike, it's me. I kill him.

I know, man, I've. I have a new practice. Any bugs.

I don't kill anything.

I bring him outside. 'Cause my wife is the same. She's like, Get the spider out of here!

I'm like, Baby, I'm not killing nothing. I tell that right there, I'm like, you're gonna kill you, kill. I'm gonna kill it, anything.

That might be my new policy.

When do you feel the most loved, Mike?

When I feel the most love.

When do you feel the most love in your heart?

You know when? When I'm around watching YouTube. And I hear my kids running around and my wife comes up and down after feeding the kids that maybe come from work and I'll come upstairs and get in the shower, maybe sit on the bed or sit on her chair, electric chair that puts electric vibes to her body. And I say, I'm very happy. Everybody's in the house. All my kids are here and that's when I'm the most loved.

Wow.

We're all together. All my oldest kids, the youngest, they're all from school, from home, and they're all back together in the same house. I feel one love at all.

That's awesome.

Why do you think that that experience makes you feel the most loved and not something else?

Because everything that I love is. I feel secured. I feel like, listen, this is the false sense of security. I feel like a protect them right now. I can't do nothing.

It's like I can come in there and do something.

Come in and kill so with a bat. Forget it.

Right?

But this is the fact. I think that they're safe now because they're with what about that's the eagle? Yeah, I think they say because they're with me. Isn't that thing? And I know that, but it just makes me feel.

It feels good.

Yeah. It makes you feel loved.

They're grown, too.

It's an interesting breakdown of that, Mike. You took it all the way through.

I love them so much. I don't want them to ever. And I see, I think they never experience anything I experience. It's the kind of people and it did the things and been in prison and got bad records and stuff. They're very clean. to get good stuff, to get good beginning. I don't got with them, you know?

Well, I. My brother. I don't know how much time you guys have. I'm. I'm just asking some questions. But my. When I was. How old was I? I was eight years old. My brother went to prison for selling drugs. So when I was eight until 12, we would drive, you know, a couple hours on the weekend. It was crazy, man. Yeah, they would. We'd drive the weekend, you know, take, like, an hour to get through the security every time, and then I'd sit in this, you know. big room with all the convicts and my brother. And I was eight years old until 12. And I remember just hearing these stories about prison that blew my mind as an eight-year-old nine-year-old just like, what happened? I'm curious, what was the biggest thing you learned about yourself from. From being in jail?

What I learned from jail. This is what I learned from jail, which is going to be a trip that there's beautiful people in this world.

Beautiful.

Yeah, there are.

There were so many nice people there.

So many beautiful people in this world. They just had hard luck, bad times and stuff. It's beautiful people. And they may be killers. Yeah, they may have done some really horrific shots. People did some stuff, drug deals and bad stuff, but they have a human quality about them. They're kind. You can sit down, you can have a different look. We have a different perspective of a drug dealer. We look for the drug dealer. He has some guns. He's coming with his pack. And a bunch of guys got their guns ready for people, for action to come and they come across a big bag. sadistic people, but that's not what it is. These are people on hard times. And nobody government's not doing nothing. They're not giving welfare out anymore. You know, this is the company where if you're not doing well, if you don't make it, you, that's the country we live in. I know you don't know why likes to hear, but if you're not doing good, you don't have a good family, you don't got a good education, you don't got good working skills, you're not big, strong buck, you. You come back from the army, you be paralyzed, you got shot up, you. You're old, you can't work, can't do nothing, you. You immigrate, don't got no skills. How your girlfriend look? How your wife look? They're beautiful. Can I up? No, you.

Yeah, but people, there are some, I've been up to Lancaster to the maximum security prison up there and done some workshops and I did a workshop for five hours with a former NFL guy, Steve Weatherford.

I don't know if you, hello Steve, punter. Yeah, we played together in Jacksonville.

There you go, yeah. good buddy of mine. So we went up there, I took a few guys, and there was about a room of 25 murderers, right? That had all murdered, or they were like on the scene when it happened and they got in there for life, whatever, right? And they were someone like the most lovely, kind men. Now they'd been in there, they've been doing the work, they've been working on themselves, transforming, you know, forgiving themselves. They've been in the work for years, decades. But there's some lovely people if you're willing to train to do the work. Yeah, I know that.

But listen, how do they get, how do they, how do these beautiful people that we're talking about, how do they get a good break when they come out there and they got the stripes on their back? They want to read your portfolio, they see this prison, you got the highest, some of these guys got the highest form of education from Ivy League schools online in prison. They can't get a job.

That's true.

They got Ivy League stuff. There's a guy at Stanford from there. Yeah.

Yeah.

Ivy League stuff, man. These guys are geniuses. They just took the days went the wrong direction. These guys are geniuses. These guys are brainiacs. The reason why we can't have radios and stuff in prison is because one of these little crazy intelligent basket that turn it into a phone where they can hear what in the. Wow. Gordon's office, you know what I mean? So that's why we can't have genius. We can't have on the things no more, the Walkmans no more, the radio, because. these guys turn into devices where they can hear in the ones off and when they go send the people up for searches and lockdowns and all that stuff. These guys are Geniuses. You can't believe it. They're like Einstein. They're in there for murder. I believe it. Drugged them. These guys are so smart that, oh.

Blow your mind, man.

It's wild. I'm curious. Every state that the, the school requirements have for college, you know, institutions, they pass them with flying colors like they were cheating. You think they're cheating at scores that they get?

Wow, it's wild, man.

I'm curious, hypothetically, let's say you could pick the day you get to die. How old would you want to be? If you could say, okay, I can choose any day, any year, would you want to be 100 or 200 years old? How old would you like to live until?

I wouldn't live long. 'Cause I wouldn't want to see my children die.

Wow.

Okay. I wouldn't live long at all.

Wow.

That would kill me if I, you know, see him growing old. I lost his daughter at four, but imagine me with the relationship I have with my children now. You know, I would probably handle it, but I wouldn't want to deal with it. I wouldn't want to see it. I would want to die a lot earlier.

Right. Well, say you got to, say it's your last day and your family was still alive.

Yeah.

And you died. Say it was 100 and your family was still alive.

Right?

What do you think you would want people to say about you in 50 years from now if that was when you died? What would you want people to say about you at your funeral or just in life after you pass?

I don't know. It's what my kids said. My daddy took care of us. Oh, yeah. That's. It's more important. My daddy, you know, other people are gonna have their opinion, their individuals.

Yeah.

Whatever it is, you know, I left the Birmingham. I told my children. Because I've always been up in that department.

Yeah.

You know, my children have to come visit me in my birthday. They always have to see me in prison all the time. You know, everything. I went through that part of my life. My kids always got to come through the glass, got to take, hang out with my kids through the, ah, the worst, right?

Yeah.

Mom, all that stuff.

That's cool, man.

That's a good question.

I'm always asking myself this stuff, you know?

That's what we are as people. We want people to think something about us. That's our ego. We want to think, I'm telling you, people, the eagles are so big, they want to be, they're mad they can't be at their own funeral. They want to see who came.

I think I would want something similar, which is like, I would want people to know that I really cared about humanity and I had a big heart and I wanted to help people as much as I could. And just that I was a kind human being.

Yeah.

Yeah, absolutely.

I tried my best to do as good as I could to help people.

You know, and then you have to deal with this. Your best wasn't good enough.

Oh, man.

Imagine that.

Well, you're dead then anyway, so you don't have to hear it anymore.

But listen, who. How do we know? Maybe. Maybe death is another form of life.

That we go to.

Another part of life. You know, how could. Absolutely. How could. You know, how could life be glorious and death not be glorious? You can't have death if you don't have life.

They want to go through the hall.

And do it all over again. No doubt about it.

But I say to myself about that.

Too, I say, listen, is this an illusion? People are born every second. What is the big deal? Why would God need me to come back? He gets somebody, other people keep coming. Why do he need my energy back anymore? We already dealt with your energy. We doing some new, you die unless he was someone on your stay here, we don't want to talk to you about you. We may bring you up in some history class before you work, okay? Right. Well, I think that. I think that's a part of our ego believing that we're gonna continue to live and we're gonna be reincarnated. No, you're finished. You had your turn. Come on. Yeah. You know.

It's possible, but you think about like your question, Mike, of Alexander the Great and the thousands of followers, hundreds of thousands of followers he had. And you think about everybody knows Alexander the Great's name, but they don't know Joe Schmo from there. And the case is still that way. There are a handful of individuals in the grand scheme of civilizations that leave a mark that perpetuates on and on. And so what you might think is why does the universe want me to? Why does spirit, why does God want me to come back or need me to come back? And it's because you carry with you this knowledge that you spread that like a virus, like a A flow of water over humanity may touch and affect and inspire others to dream and think in this way. And that's why you come back, because for the souls that are here for maybe the first time need to hear this type of stuff. Because it takes a lot to wake up in this day and age of technology, hyper accessibility, Comparison, everything, judgment, insecurities, everything.

Tell me this, right? How does somebody that lived in the Stone Age connect with somebody that lives right today? He died during the Stone Age. Now somebody did, do they intertwine one of the energy and intertwine with another? Hey, you're my cousin from 10 million years ago. Do we find things out? Do we receive knowledge from my death?

Yeah, because in our DNA it's all, it's all encrypted, encoded into our DNA, into ourselves. All of this ancient knowledge of who we are.

For my brief, you know, for my brief investigation about the toad and all this stuff in the universe, I just, it's just hard to believe that so many people are born and what happened to all these people. And like you say, say a man, say a Chinese emperor at one time, he led billions of people. And those billions of people accomplished great things, the Great Wall of China and all the great temples and all this stuff, right? Where are their names? Where are their names?

Gone.

That's a crime. Every million of them, their names should be mentioned. That's when they found the Terracotta Soldiers. They had thousands of them, but it was just, What? It's too many of them. But they put their names and everyone of them with different characters on them with different soldiers. And they put their names on them.

That's cool.

And that's the closest that it ever came down when the whole crew got the recognition from China. When he made a clay statue of everyone in the lifestyle of every one of his soldiers. And his soldiers' horses and stuff, and the guns and all this stuff.

Wow.

Well, in that same token of the, what did you say, Mike? The actions of one of us?

The conduct of one is the fate of us all.

Yes, so in the same vein, the conduct of one, Alexander the Great, is the fate of his entire community, his entire tribe.

Exactly.

You know, so he is the embodiment of all of those people. It's true. He represents it.

Yeah.

Nobody ever went that far before. Nobody ever went that far.

It must have been crazy. You 10. Imagine marching for 10 years. Imagine 10 years.

Just keep going.

Not ever thinking about home. Well, you think about home, but you never know when you're coming back. Everybody had to. They went Mutiny on them when they got to India. They said, man, we're not going home. We've been gone for 10 years. We lost a bunch of people. we got children by other women from other tribes that in our group now, you know?

Yeah.

Yeah. It's just. Whoo.

That's crazy.

Yeah, bro.

Louis, what do you have going on these days, man? What are you doing right now? Are you writing any new books?

I'm working on a new book that I'm just started writing. It's about eliminating self-doubt nice. I think self-doubt is the killer of dreams, and I think it holds us back from everything when we doubt.

Ourselves. Listen, why do we have doubts?

We.

Human beings are the only species that make doubt up when it's not there. Isn't it crazy?

That's wild.

It's crazy. That's what I'm going to be writing about. Yes. How do we overcome that self-doubt that keeps us back? And it doesn't matter. You know, I've. You've probably seen some talented athletes over the years who maybe they were more talented than you or something. I don't know. And you were like. But they didn't believe in themselves. and you had enough energy to put yourself out there and believe. I met a lot of guys, maybe you did on the football field, I was not the best athlete, but I made it past a lot of the guys that I played with. And I was so I was like, man, you're so talented, you're a mutant, you're a freak of nature. But when it comes to the game, you get scared. And I didn't understand it.

Yeah.

I never understood it. And the thing is, it doesn't matter if you're the baddest person in the.

World, And if everyone believes in you.

And says, you,'re the greatest, you can achieve it all. If you don't believe, you'll never do anything. This is, that's so interesting.

This is something I always wanted to find out. Like I have some sparring partners, people that I spar, and when I'm sparring, I'm vicious. I'm like, that's a limit. I'm not cold, break your eyes.

And there's some guys in there that kick my, right?

And you're like, what? But you put them in the ring, put them on the floor. They're nervous. You put them some popcorn there, and they're like, Panic won't throw a punch. I said, yeah, fight him like you fought me. No, it's fight him the same way. Please, just got to kill him after he's dead.

And they freak out, they panic. They won't be. I think it's, I think part of it is, this is something I'm gonna be researching and going down. I think part of it is our ego and opinions of other people. We care so much about the opinions of other people. If we, the way we look, if we fail, if, you know, something happens we're not proud of, we're so scared of what our friends, our family, the media thinks of us. that holds us back from actually being in flow and giving our all.

Absolutely.

That's true too, with other things in that realm. There's some guys that don't got sh*t, ain't got nothing, talk, cough, and there's guys that got the world, they don't do nothing to shy and introverted. They don't think much of themselves, they're scared to talk to. Now why is that? Now if you talk about self-doubt, you- the insecurities, yeah. You scared to talk to a girl. I know. I would buy one, no forget to, I'll take this one.

God, yeah.

Yeah.

People are. I think the fear of rejection. It's like the opinion of what that person thinks of you. If they say no to you, then it means you're not worthy. And at the core of all of our fears is us not being enough. It's saying, I am not enough. And therefore, I'm afraid of putting myself out there, because what if this person says, you are not enough to me. I'm rejecting you. then we get scared and our ego takes over and we don't want to be put in that situation.

In some cases, people killed other people for saying that.

Absolutely. Yeah.

People freak out.

And isn't it interesting that you could have the world saying, you got this, you're the greatest and you not believe in yourself and not take up the opportunity. And in the reverse, you could have the world against you and everyone says, no, there's no way you can do this. There's no chance you're not good enough and all it takes is one person to believe and that's yourself. And when you can be against the world, but if you have the belief, then you can go and create it. And so that's what I want to.

Absolutely.

This book is about developing self belief and eliminating self doubt because I think self doubt is a killer of dreams.

I used to have a mentor and he used to say this, confidence applied properly. We'll superseed a genius.

Oh, yeah. The genius without confidence isn't gonna do anything.

Yeah.

It doesn't matter.

Amazing.

Yeah.

So I've got that.

You should interview Mike for it, dude.

I'm going to. I mean, I'm going to, yeah, for sure. I've got that. I've got a documentary I'm looking to launch here soon. That's about, it's called Chasing Greatness. Nice. It's all about discovering what greatness is. And I'm excited about that. And then my podcast is called the School of Greatness. greatness. So we interview people like Mike, who's gonna be coming on soon.

And so tell us, I'm gonna say something that John Kennedy Jr. Said, all right? I've known him well before he died, right? And he said this. I met a lot of great men.

But.

And all those great men I met. I never met, there were no good men. And he said, after meeting all these great men, I decided I want to be a good man. And that's what I said. I said, I want to be a good man. People told me I was great for a long time, but it didn't give me, you know, as I got older it didn't mean anything to me. You know what I mean? And then I realized that being a good man It's, you know, it's worth more than being a great man. All great men are not good men, but most good men could become great men.

Yeah, that's true.

So true.

That's great.

So true. Because that doesn't give you anything. No. All of the material success, accomplishments, do anything for your soul. You may get five minutes, five years of gratification. for your achievements, but it's not going to fill the hole unless you're at peace with yourself. You are in love with yourself.

Listen, we're human beings. We're, we're, you know, we're human beings. Imagine how do you take your great man? How do you take that? Why do you say I'm a bad? How do they take that? You know, from a perspective of Humanity. How do you, how do you take your great man?

I just try to say, I don't.

Even know what that means.

If someone says that to me, I would just say thank you. I'm trying to do my best every single day. I'm learning every day. I'm growing. I'm not perfect and I just want to help and serve. So I just try to focus on service. And I say thank you.

I'm just trying to serve as much as I can. I thought of a great man, a man like Gandhi, a man that gives up all his money, gives everything to something. But that don't make him a great man. That's this man don't give a f*** money. But that don't make him a good man either. You know, he just value. He has a price, but his price is not money. might be sex.

Yeah.

Might be liquor, might be drugs. I just might be his happiness, you know what I mean? And all happy people are not good people. You know what I mean?

Yeah, you could be doing bad things and feel happy about it.

Yeah. Well, happy people are not good people.

That's true.

Good stuff, man.

This is fun, guys.

Really good. When you see somebody that's. That's in a bad situation. and you try to make that situation better. That's a good person. That's a good person.

Yeah.

You don't have to know him or anything, but to make a situation better.

Well, you could do, you could simply smile.

Yeah. Yeah.

You don't have to do a lot to change someone's energy and make them feel better. You can smile, you can 100 say, how are you? You know? Yeah. It's just your energy, your way of.

Being, how you show up. So there's a lot of homeless people around La.

Yeah.

You live in La?

I live in West Hollywood.

Downtown La. Oh, West Hollywood. There's people too. Yeah.

Yeah.

And on my side of town in.

NoHo, North Hollywood, see in Hollywood, but Hollywood, they got the functional homeless people. They're still clean. They're still not talking.

They got cell phones.

Yeah. These guys downtown don't have nothing. They're gonna die there, man.

Yeah.

It's really bad. But, you know, I try to acknowledge them, at least.

That's good.

You know, I feel like those people are so beaten down. that if another soul can just acknowledge their existence, that lifts them up to some extent. That's true.

Just smile and say, Hey, I hope you're doing well.

Hey man, you know, God bless you.

Good luck to you. I don't understand. Listen, it's funny you say that. It was a story about Alexander the Great and it was this guy, forgot his name, but he was a homeless guy and he never complained. He was always happy. And Alexander was the king of Greece at the time. He said, Hey, listen, I notice you, you have nothing, you're always happy, I have everything, what can I do for you? And the guy said this, he said, For once, if you can please just get out of the way of the sun so I can get my tan. And Alexander just couldn't understand why this guy had nothing but he was happy. And he had everything and he wasn't happy. That was confusing to me.

It's interesting, I've been a part of a charity called Pencils of Promise where I'm actually tonight, I'm flying to Guatemala. Every year I go on a trip. Every year I go on a trip. We go to Guatemala, Laos, and Ghana. And we build schools. That's cool there. I like it there. But we go and build schools. I've been doing it for seven, eight years. A guy named Adam Braun founded it. Scooter Braun.

Yeah, he's part of his brother.

I don't know if you know Scooter Braun. We do. Justin Bieber. Yeah, yeah. So, I'm going tonight, and every year I go on a trip for about four days, and I see these kids that have nothing. They're in the middle of They're so unhappy, man. They have nothing. They have no schools, they have no-- oh, wow. They have a hut, but then they get like a little sandwich, and they're just hanging out with their family, and they're kicking a soccer ball on a dirt field with, you know, trees in the middle of the field, and they're, you know, they're so happy kicking a rock around.

Well, they don't expect anything. In this country, we were taught to expect things, even if you don't work. We expect to have that beautiful girl. We expect to have that house. We expect to have that money. Someone to give us money, yeah. they give it to us.

They're so happy. And so when I come, when I'm there for four or five days and I come back and I drive through Beverly Hills to get to West Hollywood and I see it's grotesque, this, the material abundance and people honking in their 400 000 Bentleys or whatever and getting mad. And I'm like, these people are so happy with nothing. They've got family, they've got laughter, they've got health and people in Beverly Hills, not everyone, obviously, but I see people that are angry and Frustrating cosmic joke, man.

Isn't it crazy? No, this is crazy. People are so fragile. Life is fragile. It's hard living life. You see people, they say they make a bad mistake, they think it's over, they may kill themselves. Life is hard to live.

Yeah.

By making them say, oh, God, I know we're getting no money, I know.

My girl left me, nobody love me, boom, I'm dead.

You know, it's just people are...

It always passes though, right?

Yeah.

You've been through some crap.

Yeah, but you have to go through it. Some people can't go through the rain.

It's a lot of pain.

To go through that pain.

A lot of pain.

Deal with that pain.

And you have to be willing to always see the light.

It's so hard when you feel like you're suffocating, though.

But it's just your mind playing tricks.

It is. It's all mind game. It's a mind game.

We're so human beings are so drama field. We're movies in our own self.

That's it. Stories we tell.

We listen to. It's not even true when we playing. We got the emotions. We cried. It's cool, it's over. It's gone, it's cool. Good, man.

Well, this is fun. What do you think, dude? We have a ball in here. This is a great conversation. It's a great conversation.

I'm excited to have you on soon and just talk more about this stuff. So.

Hell, yeah, dude. Do you ever think about that? Where the f*** am I going to go when the s*** is over? I know you don't think it's a blackout boom.

Yeah.

I know you and the sun's going to... I think about it every day. Yeah, you do. Because it's kind of exciting, too. Let's be honest, what's next? That's exciting. Because, you know, God didn't make us for us to blank out. Do you think God made us for us to say, hey, it's over, blank out, we don't exist anymore.

Come on.

I don't think so. The galaxy is so big. I think sometimes that we're in somebody's dream. No, we're in somebody's system. We're at guts. We're cells. We're cells.

We're living inside somebody that's just so.

Big we can't even fathom it.

Why not?

You know?

Why not?

Well, we stop being afraid.

We're ready to die. Isn't that crazy? That's the paradox. Even when you're young, we no longer afraid you usually die. You know?

Interesting.

Fear keeps us alive. Fear is a friend of ours.

You have some realization.

Yeah.

And then you go. Should we wrap this up?

Sure, why not?

Do you guys have a special ending too?

No. Thank you, man.

This is powerful.

This is awesome.

It's beautiful. big Mike.

Hope to see you again.

Appreciate you, man. Thank you.

This is beautiful meeting you, man. Mike. Amazing episode, brother.

Hey, wait.

Where can people find you?

Yeah.

Tell us. @lewis_howes L-E-W-I-S H-O-W-E-S and on Instagram or wherever.

And then School of Greatness podcast. Awesome.

Yeah.

Check it, y'all.

Why do you think we could. We put greatness and wealth in the same category. I don't do that.

We know most people. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

You know, I think it's, I think they think of like wealth and success. The reason why for me it wasn't called School of Success, because I think that word is, I don't know, it's just not used that well. It's tied around like money and accomplishments where greatness for me is not about money and accomplishments. It's about service. It's about how can you use the gifts and talents that you were given, that you were born with, to cultivate them and pursue a dream that you have. And in that pursuit, how can you impact the people around you, the maximum number of people?

For me, that's what we do about homeless people. What do we do about having homeless hotels? Imagine a hotel like Vegas, like the MGM Grand, a 5,000 room hotel. Imagine something like that for the homeless. And as they go in the hotel, they learn how to take care of the hotel, they learn how to handle it, take the people, they learn the bellhop, they learn the administration, they learn all that, and then they build more hotels all over the world for homeless people to learn how to make, live their life.

I think it's a great concept if they have the responsibility and want to do the work and, and, and want to show up and work. You know, that's the challenge, man.

Well, we'll have you on again and we'll go deeper on success and greatness. I think it's awesome, man.

I appreciate it, man.

Appreciate it.

I like to think of myself as, like, a young Ashton Kutcher, like the modern young. Ashton Kutcher, where he takes his acting presence and grows that, becomes a huge star, but is also on the business side of things.