Lewis HowesYour Personal 24/7 Greatness Coach

Not everyone is meant to be your friend

16 May 2026 · 1 min

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In this motivational monologue, Lewis Howes emphasizes that not every person who enters your life is meant to be a friend. He warns against people‑pleasing and the habit of trying to be liked by everyone, explaining that allowing the wrong people into your circle can drag you down. Howes advocates for courageously setting healthy boundaries and removing unsupportive or critical individuals. By doing so, you create space for the right people—those who elevate you, provide mentorship, resources, and inspiration—to help you achieve your goals. The core message is that you don’t need to be friends with everyone; instead, focus on cultivating relationships that support your success.

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I wish someone would have told me this sooner, that not everyone is meant to be your friends. Just because people come into your life and they're excited to be around you doesn't mean they're meant to be in your life. And in a world full of people pleasing and trying to please everyone around you, it's only going to bring you down the more you let the wrong people in your life. But when you're willing and courageous enough to create boundaries and remove people from your life, that's when you create the space and allow for the right people who can elevate you, who can support you in your dreams, who can bring you the opportunities, the resources, the inspiration, the mentorship to support you in getting to the next level. You don't need to be friends with everyone. Not everyone is meant to like you. And I know you want to be liked and loved and adored by people, and I know you want everyone to comment positive things, but people are going to criticize you no matter what. So don't allow those people in your life. Remove them as fast as you can. Create those healthy boundaries and make sure to create space to allow for the right people to show up for you who want to see you succeed.