This content was created by Lewis Howes. This content was uploaded by Lewis Howes. This is a YouTube video titled "Put Away The Scorecard" created on December 7, 2025. It features a personal reflection on relationships, emphasizing the importance of not keeping score and choosing to be a loving and generous person, particularly in familial relationships.
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The biggest unlock of my life was the following. I was constantly keeping score. My dad, he was an okay dad, not a very good dad. So I'm not going to be a good son. And then what I realized is I would get a lot of joy and reward from having a good relationship with my father. Look at your relationships, and rather than having a scorecard, put it away and say, what kind of partner do I want to be? What kind of boss do I want to be? What kind of son do I want to be? What kind of brother do I want to be? And maybe your sister didn't show up when your dad was sick, but do I want to be a loving, generous brother? Yeah, I do. So put away the scorecard and just hold yourself to that standard. And I decided about 20 or 30 years ago to put away the bull resentment of my dad and say, I really want to be a loving, generous son. And I have been for the last 20 or 30 years. My father passed about four months ago, and my dad mellowed as he got older, he got more generous. So what I would say is, the big learning is people are flawed. Put away the scorecard, decide what kind of person you want to be in that relationship. And the other big learning was my dad evolved. My dad was a better dad to my half sister, his daughter, by his third marriage, than he was to me. And that's evolution.
