Men's sexual desire isn't pathology, it's fuel for self-improvement. The real skill is enduring rejection repeatedly, because every major success comes after many nos. That resilience separates high earners from everyone else.
I think men wanting romantic and sexual relationships has been pathologized and demonized, and I think it's a feature, not a bug. I didn't see my partner at the pool at the Raleigh Hotel in South Beach and think, I would like someday to have a relationship with her to get lower rates on auto insurance. I saw her and thought, quite frankly, I would really like to have sex with that woman. And that desire, that fire, can be destructive. Yes. But most of the time, it's fire that's captured in an engine and creates progress, progress towards being fit, being a better dresser, having a rep, being a provider, having perseverance, and developing what I think is the key skill in life across multiple dimensions. And that is the ability to endure rejection. And I think a lot of the skills men develop pursuing relationships are not only informative and educational, but really key to developing skills across the rest of their lives. And if you ever see someone, you think, oh, they're talented, but they seem to have made more money than I would have guessed, or they're with someone of higher character and more attractive than them, I can almost guarantee you they have one skill set, and that is the ability to get out a spoon and eat shit. Every great yes in your life will involve one thing, and that is a ridiculous number of nos that come before it.
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