This content was created by Lewis Howes. This content was uploaded by Lewis Howes. This is a YouTube video titled "Social media is creating child narcissists!" featuring a conversation between Lewis Howes and Dr. Ramani Durvasula. The discussion, recorded on September 30, 2025, explores the impact of social media on child development, particularly focusing on the potential for creating narcissistic traits due to overexposure and lack of consent in sharing children's lives online.
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What are the main things that happen to cause someone to become a narcissist? Is it all trauma based?
It's no, it's. It's partly trauma. It's also that temperament. It is chaos in the early environment, it's lack of secure attachment, it's overvaluation of the child. Basically the child can do no wrong. And they're so wonderful. I mean it's interesting. We're about to see something fascinating happen and I don't know how it's going to go down. We're about to see because what Facebook's coming up on 20 years soon, right? We're about to see the first generation of kids who are born into the Facebook world where every moment being documented and shared since they were born. Since they were born, this is the first time we're going to be seeing this. So I bless the people out there who are going to start collecting this data because we now have, you know, you're going to see what happens if you were. Because I had kids way before this, so I did not. The only people saw their pictures were people actually friends and family, put them in an envelope, mailed a picture kind of thing.
I came over to the house and.
Looked at the actual baby. But this is a, this is a whole new game for kids who basically were accessories to their parents lives. Like, look at my child this, look at my child this, look at my child this. Every day there's a new picture.
So is it. Do you think it's okay to share some of your family life on social media and some of your children's special moments? Or do you think we should be protecting our kids at all costs and never show their face, never show anything until they're whatever, 10 or 12.
It's a super interesting area. There's some actually really interesting thinking and writing about this, which is these children aren't consenting to this. Are these children consenting to you showing them have a meltdown or you know, we see all these silly child videos and sometimes I kind of feel a little sadness because these things stay evergreen. They didn't agree to that. And as much as we say, oh no, it's so cute. Is it still, they didn't consent. It's a vulnerability, right? So there's some, I know some folks in the developmental sphere of psychology saying, oh, this may not be entirely cool.
Yeah. What happens, what happens when the kid's 23 and they start going back and seeing all these like things that their mom or dad posted and they're like, huh, that's not really cool. I wish you wouldn't have done that to me.
But it goes beyond that, because even when the child is young, there's this sense of things are constantly being done to them without them agreeing to it.
Posing and put these clothes on and.
Do this and let's post you in a public way. And then the child also gets this sense of their utility. Their importance to their parents is their social media Persona. You look so pretty in your dress. You look so cute in your costume. Like you're wondering, are you costuming your child for Halloween for you or for them?
