Stop claiming values you don't live. If you say you're generous, donate time. If you say family matters, be present. Prove who you are through what you actually do, and you'll finally believe it yourself.
If you want to be who you say you are, prove it to yourself. Practice it. You want to be a genuine person? Make sure that the relationships that you're open and vulnerable in, in in your words, that you're open and vulnerable in in your actions. Even when it's scary because on the other side of vulnerability is possible pain. You say you're a generous person? What what do you provide your community? Yeah yeah yeah. Go donate your time somewhere. Uh huh. You know you say that you. You are a family-oriented person. Close the laptop and you don't have to, you don't have to play with the kids for 3 hours, but spend some time with your family doing the hardest thing that any human can do, and that's being present. When we think about things that we have to prove, we think about proving things to other people, but we have to have that same relationship with ourselves. I trust that I am who I say I am when I prove it to myself consistently throughout time.
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