Stop Giving Your Partner the BARE MINIMUM | Esther Perel

Little things to go out of your way rather than just to do the minimum. A lot of people start to do the bare minimum just so that they can't be scolded. Go an extra thing on occasion. Just do something for the other person just because it matters to them, even if you couldn't care less. Rather than it's not important to me. I don't need this or I don't care about this. Give each other a lot of individual space. Not everything needs to be shared. People have different passions, different interests, different friends, and they need those separate spaces to exist. Admiration, I think, is huge. Because admiration is also that you kind of really see the otherness of the other person. Don't try to make your partner into one person for everything. There is no such a person. Find multiple sources of connection, of intimacy, of friendship, so that you can have a group of people support you. And don't have one person who has to be there for you for everything, especially when you're in the dumpster.